When Caretaking Is Self-Sabotage

We all have different “parts” in our psyches, minds, and souls. Think of each part as a singer on American Idol, competing for the “spotlight” in our lives. Our goal is to:

• identify
• accept
• learn from
• work with

our parts. 

In her brilliant book Rezoom: The Powerful Reframe to End the Crash-And-Burn Cycle of Food Addiction, author Susan Pierce Thompson outlines 6 Parts than can sabotage our highest self:

• Indulgers
• Controllers
• Caretakers
• Rebels
• Inner Critics
• Isolators

The Caretaker Part wants to “rescue and save others” in order to avoid your own personal work. 

Here are the Caretaker archetypes or “flavors”:

• 24-Hour Nurse: “If I’m always caring for others, I can prove my worth and avoid self-reflection and vulnerability.”

• Pushover: “I just can’t say NO.”

• Martyr: “I’m resentful and exhausted because I help too much!”

• Pleaser: “I just can’t have them disappointed in me. I have to avoid confrontation.”

• Hero: “I will swoop in and save the say even if it costs me.”

• Peacemaker: “I will avoid conflict and keep the peace at any cost.”

I invite you to consider these questions:

• When do you notice a Caretaker Part trying to rescue others at your own expense?
• What type of Caretaker Part resonates most with you?
• When do you notice your Caretaker Part sabotaging your best efforts?
• How is your Caretaker Part trying to keep you safe?
  
  

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