Emotional Safety in Marriage | Why Conversation Isn’t Always the Cure | Ep. 60

2025-06-01

Have you ever sat next to your partner, not angry, not even distant on purpose, and still felt miles apart? This episode is for couples who love each other deeply… but no longer feel it. We go beyond the usual communication advice and explore how emotional intimacy is often blocked not by a lack of love but by a nervous system that no longer feels safe.If you’re parenting, stretched thin, or just too exhausted for deep talks, you’ll discover why co-regulation, somatic cues, and body-based safety matter more than ever in your relationship. We unpack the hidden impact of

Have you ever sat next to your partner, not angry, not even distant on purpose, and still felt miles apart?

This episode is for couples who love each other deeply… but no longer feel it.

We go beyond the usual communication advice and explore how emotional intimacy is often blocked not by a lack of love but by a nervous system that no longer feels safe.

If you’re parenting, stretched thin, or just too exhausted for deep talks, you’ll discover why co-regulation, somatic cues, and body-based safety matter more than ever in your relationship.

We unpack the hidden impact of nervous system dysregulation on emotional connection, and I’ll guide you through 3 simple but powerful invitations to begin reconnecting without needing long conversations, date nights, or perfect words.

This is intimacy from the inside out.

Today we explore:

🔍 Why you feel emotionally distant even when nothing’s “wrong”
💬 What happens when your nervous systems stop syncing
🧠 How emotional safety rewires intimacy more than communication skills
❤️ The quiet, somatic ways to reconnect without talking

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Past Episodes on Improving Communication in Couples

How does parenthood affect marriage: Are parenting challenges to blame for relationship issues? | Ep. 2
Communication skills for couples: Navigating parenthood and parenting together | Ep. 9
Resentment in Marriage: How Parenthood Brings up Old Wounds and How to Heal | Ep. 31
Wondering How to Rekindle a Relationship After Children? 3 Stages… | Ep. 34
The 4 Types of Connection & Ways to Rekindle the Romance with Dr. Adam Dorsay | Ep. 37
Signs of Drifting Apart in a Relationship: 6-Step Framework to Bridge the Emotional Distance in Parenthood | Ep. 40
Love Language Not Working Anymore? How Parenthood, Stress, and Identity Shifts Change Emotional Needs in Marriage and Long-Term Relationships | Ep. 52
Unhappy Marriage After Baby? Rebuilding Emotional Closeness in Parenthood Using Love Languages | Ep. 54

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Markella Kaplani, M.A.
Clinical-Counseling Psychologist
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