Love Lust And Laughter - 08.01.18

Romantic relationships evolve at life’s different stages. Bard Coates is a divorce lawyer who authored “Divorce with Decency” now in its 5th Edition. www.CoatesandFrey.com.  Brad and Dr. Diana discussed the Millennials (born 1980-1995) and how many are embracing the “new monogamy.” A growing number of couples are reconsidering the terms of their commitment – sometimes it’s referred to as negotiated monogamy. “Monogamish” is the term coined by Dan Savage a popular sex columnist. When I work with couples considering opening their marriage, I get both partners to come clean about what they feel emotionally capable of handling. Brad talks about Millennials “hooking up”… allowing for physical pleasure while avoiding emotional risks. We also discussed pornography. When the man (95% of the time it is the man)) views porn in secret, it is often linked to relationship dissatisfaction. Acceptance of  porn by both partners may help their relationship in terms of their expectations and their communication. The “Paradox of Choice” prevails for many – having too many choices – including in the on-line dating world. Moving up to Boomers (born 1946-1964), Brad spoke about the frequency of “Gray Divorces. The 50 plus group has seen their rate of divorce surge 50% in the past 20 years. Brad will return September 18th for a Part 2. Tune in!