Most of us have been asking the wrong question about trust in our relationship entirely.
We focus on whether we can trust our partner to show up, to keep their word, to meet our needs- which is valid, of course, but we need to take it deeper.
Relationships are mirrors - and the real question trust is asking you is: Can you trust yourself in this relationship?
In this episode, I'm sharing the raw conversation with my friend whose partner literally left ...
Most of us have been asking the wrong question about trust in our relationship entirely.
We focus on whether we can trust our partner to show up, to keep their word, to meet our needs- which is valid, of course, but we need to take it deeper.
Relationships are mirrors - and the real question trust is asking you is: Can you trust yourself in this relationship?
In this episode, I'm sharing the raw conversation with my friend whose partner literally left town when she was unconscious and sick for 24 hours. Instead of focusing on his abandonment, we dove deep into why she was choosing to stay and abandon herself. I'm also opening up about my 13-year relationship where I lost myself so completely that I couldn't even choose tomato sauce at the store.
This isn't about blaming yourself or excusing bad behavior. This is about recognizing that your body is constantly communicating through exhaustion, throat issues, feeling hollow, getting sick - and learning to trust that wisdom above all else.
If you've been asking "Can I trust him?" but haven't asked "Am I willing to self-abandon for this relationship?" this episode will shift everything.
🔥 What We're Covering:
- Why relationships are mirrors that show you your relationship with yourself
- The real story behind my friend's partner abandoning her when she was unconscious and sick
- How self-abandonment disguises itself as "working on your relationship"
- Why your body gets sick, exhausted, and hollow when you're betraying yourself
- The choice every woman faces: self-abandon or be brave (not perfect)
- How to identify your values and non-negotiables before communicating them
- Moving from first-stage love (victim/blame) to second-stage love (we-focused growth)
- Why trusting yourself to have your own back changes how your partner shows up
The truth is...
Trust equals safety, and safety equals the ability to thrive. But most of us are looking for safety from our partner instead of creating it within ourselves first. When you trust yourself enough to honor your body's wisdom, speak your truth, and uphold your non-negotiables, you either create the foundation for conscious love - or you get the clarity you need to choose yourself.
Xx,
KD
Questions to Sit With:
- Can I trust myself in this relationship?
- What is my body trying to communicate to me right now?
- Am I willing to self-abandon or be brave (not perfect)?
- What are my actual non-negotiables in relationship?
Ready to go deeper with personalized support?
If you're recognizing patterns of self-abandonment in your relationship and want to build the foundation of radical self-trust but don't know where to start, my 1:1 coaching is designed for women ready to stop fragmenting themselves for love.
Together, we'll identify your specific values and non-negotiables, learn to trust your body's wisdom as sacred information, and create the conscious partnership where you feel deeply seen and supported instead of walking on eggshells. If you're ready to move from self-abandonment to self-trust and build love that honors your truth, send me a DM on IG to explore working together.
Love this episode? Screenshot and tag me @iamkaijadawn - especially if this perspective shift hit you right in the soul.
Warning: This episode is a loving but direct wake-up call. I'm speaking from my mama voice because this message needs to land. You are worthy of relationships that honor your truth, not ones that require you to fragment yourself to survive.
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Disclaimer: This podcast shares personal stories, experiences, and reflections on relationships, consciousness work, and personal growth. The content is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health support, medical advice, or therapeutic treatment. If you're experiencing crisis, abuse, or severe mental health symptoms, please reach out to a qualified professional. Your journey is your own - trust yourself to know what support you need and when you need it.
