SUMMARY:*In this conversation, guest Kim Harr shares her journey through grief, loss, and trauma as a Christian woman who faced significant challenges in her marriage and personal life.*After 23 years of marriage and four children, she experienced difficulties that led to divorce, despite her strong commitment to her faith and the belief that marriage should last until death.*She shares a harrowing experience of being kidnapped and assaulted by her ex-husband...
SUMMARY:
*In this conversation, guest Kim Harr shares her journey through grief, loss, and trauma as a Christian woman who faced significant challenges in her marriage and personal life.
*After 23 years of marriage and four children, she experienced difficulties that led to divorce, despite her strong commitment to her faith and the belief that marriage should last until death.
*She shares a harrowing experience of being kidnapped and assaulted by her ex-husband and how she found God's presence during that traumatic event.
*Kim discusses the emotional turmoil she faced, including feelings of disappointment and shame, and how she sought counsel and support. *The conversation also touches on the importance of forgiveness, healing, and the presence of God during difficult times.
*Kim emphasizes that healing is a choice and involves navigating through various emotions, including anger and sorrow.
*Throughout the discussion, Kim highlights the significance of community, the process of reclaiming joy after loss, and the importance of setting boundaries.
*Her book, "Healing from Life's Deepest Hurts," offers tools for readers to find their own healing.
*Kim closes the conversation with a message of hope, emphasizing that no story is too broken for God to heal and restore, encouraging others to trust in God's plan for their lives.
PODCAST INTRO:
What happens when your dreams of a fairytale marriage, a Prince Charming husband and living happily ever after come crashing down around you? Kim Harr, a woman of faith diligently sought God’s heart for her marriage and pressed Him for His ability to make all things new and yet her marriage ended in divorce. By her choice.
Author Kim Haar shares her personal story not only with divorce but the harrowing experience of her ex-husband kidnapping her, assaulting her for 4 hours and then shooting her boyfriend Andrew, 10 times.
Initially when Kim was trying to make her marriage work she shares that while she and her husband attended marriage counseling there were many times when she felt lost and unsupported and that’s what motivated her to work toward and achieve her license as a professional therapist. Today she’s helping women become the best version of themselves and she’s super passionate about helping women get “unstuck” from the things they may not be able to put a finger on yet but they do realize there’s a disconnect.
Once a victim, Kim now walks in victory and that is what lead Kim to write and publish her book, Healing from Life’s Deepest Hurts - Reclaiming Your Life After Grief, Loss, or Trauma. She shares her personal story in much more detail than we have time for in this podcast episode and she also gives the reader tools so they can initiate their own healing and wholeness in their personal story.
If you find yourself facing a divorce or in the aftermath of divorce, listen to Kim because not only does she remind you that you are not alone, she’ll help you navigate the painful terrain of what can feel like a shameful failure. If you’d like more wisdom and discernment for the journey, you can check out her book (links below) or you can reach out to her using her contact info (as seen below).
Side Note: When Kim is talking about her ex-husband shooting Andrew we leave you hanging. I didn’t mean to do that! ’m sure it was because Kim and I had already talked so I knew how it turns out and therefore could easily focus on other aspects of Kim’s message. Do know that at the end we come back to Andrew and let you know how that all turned out. You could fast forard to the end but you’d miss so much deep wisdom that Kim shares along the way. So hang in there because Kim does tell you what happened not only with Andrew but brings us up to speed on her life.
Let’s listen in to find out that there’s no story so broken that God cannot heal it!
Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com
Sherrie Pilk
Other podcast episodes and/or blogs on this topic:
*Making Marriage Healthy with Marriage Counselor, Leslie Davis: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/11/08/marriage-healthy/
*Christian marriage, Abuse and Boundaries, with Stephanie Jordan: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/04/12/christian-marriage-abuse-and-boundaries/
*A Porn Free Marriage is Possible with Rosie MaKinney: https://alifeofthrive.com/2022/05/11/porn-free/
*Healing for Male Sexual Abuse Survivors with Dr. Kelli Palfy: https://alifeofthrive.com/2022/03/30/male-sexual-abuse/
CONNECT WITH KIMBERLY:
Website: https://kimberlyhaar.com/
Podcast: Keeping It Real: https://kimberlyhaar.com/podcast/
Purchase Her Book (link is on the page near the bottom): https://kimberlyhaar.com/healing-from-lifes-deepest-hurts-book/
BIO:
Kimberly Haar is a licensed therapist, author, and speaker with nearly two decades of experience in trauma recovery and marriage and family therapy. Blending clinical insight with deep faith, she helps others move from pain to purpose. Drawing from her own story of healing, Kimberly shares a message of hope and restoration, reminding others that with God, no story is too shattered to be rewritten, and no life too broken to be beautifully restored.
