Dad Day!

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6-17-19 Friday

 

One of the toughest jobs today is to be a father. I just read that the average age now for boys to view porn is 8 years of age… How do we combat these types of challenges in todays world! 

 

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I had a great fathers day… and birthday.

Later today I will post my totals and pictures on facebook. And just brag on God who saved me from colon cancer, lymphatic, and liver cancer and a brain tumor… I was supposed to die 6 years ago… so you tell me how I look for a dead guy.

My goal is to not look my age (27 twice) and to bench over 400, squat over 600 and deadlift over 600 up until I am 60. So far so good. 

 

Happy Fathers day. If you are not a father then pass it on to your Dad. 

Todays challenges are beyond what I was raised with, beyond what I faced raising my boys… we are in uncharted waters for sure. 

 

3 ways to improve your father skills. 

 

1. Learn how to talk to your kids about anything… don’t wait for the opportunity, make the opportunity.

I was just telling my son about this… we devised a plan to talk to his 4 year old about porn… You might say…what he is only 4. Hear me out: We talked about the conversation of only 4 people touch you where your bathing suit covers you… mom, dad and Gpa and Gma… and you always tell Mom and Dad when anyone try’s or does….

There are enough creepy Gpa’s out there he should still always tell his mom and dad when I or my wife touch him in those areas.

 

Secondly we said this summer when we go to the pool we will talk about why boys and girls wear swim suits, and why Mommy’s and Daddy’s wear swim suits etc… Then we talked about how in a year or two he will be in school and how he needs to be aware that some kids will want to show him pictures of naked people etc… and how and when to have that talk.

 

There is no chance involved, everything is mapped out to the best of our ability. 

 

Don’t text it. Talk it.

Go for a long drive, put on their favorite music, get some ice cream… and let them sit in back and talk to them slowly and sincerely. (about every topic)

 

2. Go heavy on the physical love. Hug your kids, daily, kiss them, touch them. Rub your hands through their hair, rub their backs, give them bear hugs, wrestle with their necks and speak to them positively. 

Did you know that girl’s who have their fathers present in the home and give physical affection prolong puberty in their daughters up to 6-18 months…. 

Boys who are shown positive physical love are far more mature, confident and less likely to fall to peer pressure.

 

You might say “that’s hard for me, I was not raised that way” - yeah, all the more reason to do it for your kids. Don’t cop out- just do it! 

Well it will be weird to now all of a sudden just start doing it… not for your kids- it will be wonderful! and now you have no more excuses- you know how important it is so do it!

 

 

3. Be the example you want them to model. 

If you have a son- be the model for him to follow as a future husband. Would you want your son to model your behavior in his marriage?

Would you want your daughter to marry someone like you?

 

Now here is the real challenge: Tell them that you are trying to model it for them. If they are old enough to understand then give them the right to ask you questions as to why you do what you do in marriage and family.

 

You know is Ephesians 6:1-4

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 Honor your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), 3 so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth.

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

 

are you worthy of being followed… is your example Godly? 

Are you bringing them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord?