E21 Authentic, Not Conforming: Build Executive Presence That Fits

When the “official lane” looks safe but feels small, it’s time to rethink fit. Inspired by the classic Put Me in the Zoo (Seuss-adjacent), this episode explores how we chase titles and conformity when our strengths are actually asking for a different stage—more authentic, a little bold, and genuinely useful. I share the family story behind a 1967 inscription, a quick overview of the book, and a practical path to test-and-try your way into rooms where your gifts breathe: tiny experiments, stretch assignments, job crafting, and feedback that acts like a flashlight (not a verdict). If you’ve been pressing your face to the wrong gate, this is your gentle nudge to stop knocking and start showing.

Episode highlights

• Why fit beats fancy: belonging is a function of stage, not worth
• Demonstrate, don’t beg: make value visible with tiny tests
• Conformity vs. authentic presence: how to lead without shrinking
• Micro-moves: stretch assignments, job crafting 20%, shadowing, serving
• A script to ask for a stretch—with guardrails
• “Picture this” moments you can use this week (open the meeting, turn a status into a decision, design your next chapter)

One line to take with you

"Stop knocking at the wrong gate—start showing what fits."

 

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Ready to find the stage that fits? I offer 1:1 coaching for women leaders and business coaching for founders and executive teams—practical, momentum-focused, tailored to you. Start here: LynseyMulder.com

 

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