Anxious or Avoidant? Understanding Your Relationship Patterns

In this episode of Trauma, Tea, and Tangents, Hannah Guy chats with Abby Wilson, LCSW, an existential therapist who helps women navigate quarter-life challenges and attachment trauma. They break down the messy, sometimes hilarious realities of attachment styles in today’s dating world — from overthinking texts as an anxious partner to avoiding feelings at all costs as an avoidant one.

Abby shares insights on self-worth, body signals, and emotional patterns that shape how we connect with others. They talk about how to recognize those patterns, navigate relationships more consciously, and actually start feeling some peace in the process (yes, even in the middle of ghosting, over-texting, and dating app chaos).

Whether you’re trying to understand your own relationship patterns or just want a laugh while learning something about yourself, this episode is packed with practical insights, relatable stories, and no-BS advice about attachment and emotional growth.

Connect with Abby Wilson:

• Instagram & TikTok: @abbywilsonlcsw

• Website: abbywilsontherapy.com

What you’ll find in this episode

• How anxious and avoidant attachment styles show up in modern dating.

• Why overthinking texts or ghosting isn’t “just you” — it’s attachment talking.

• How to notice your own emotional patterns and body signals.

• Tips to build self-worth and trust yourself in relationships.

• Why healing takes time (and why it’s okay to stumble along the way).

• How to cultivate peace and self-acceptance right now, not just someday.

• Approaching relationships with curiosity instead of shame.