#212 - You Ask, We Answer - 33

Our monthly installment of You Ask, We Answer. Where we answer all sorts of questions from our listeners.

Question #1: Vendor and COVID Guidelines

I got in an argument with a vendor i had been in talks with about using for my upcoming wedding because they posted a video on their instagram of their whole crew setting up another wedding with all of their masks under their chin. the owner refused to acknowledge there was anything wrong with that and just kept saying i was “judging her without knowing her.” luckily its not too late to pull out on this one, but do you guys have any ideas on how i can make sure my vendors are actually following the rules? i’m super frustrated and disappointed

Question #2: Questions for a caterer before booking

I'm going through my planning process, and I'm feeling pretty organized. I found my perfect dress last night! I'm meeting with 2 caterers, and I guess my only thing is, I don't feel like i have enough questions to ask. When you meet with caterers, are there some go-to questions you always ask? They will also be hopefully handling some of the linen rentals and various rentals so I want to make sure I know what to ask so I can choose between them. Any thoughts would be very appreciated.

Question #3: When to DIY and when not to DIY

I have questions about DIY. Do you have any guidance on what projects to attempt a DIY? I love getting crafty and creative, but I don't want to overextend myself. I certainly love Etsy but sometimes it's not quite what I'm looking for so I'm like...maybe I could make something similar myself? I loved your episode with FlowerMoxie and that really inspired me as well. My planner is of course very hesitant on me doing any florals. Bless her for giving me a kind response when I asked. I was like "well...maybe just the bar or cocktail table flowers??" Any guidance or episodes of your podcast to listen to? I'm going to be sleeping with the Cricut more often that I will my fiancé.

Question #4:

My questions are: 1.) How much should I expect everyone to spend on a bachelorette weekend? 2.) What is a normal price to pay for hair/makeup? 3.) How much is typical to spend on a bridesmaid proposal box? 4.) Thoughts on a joined bachelor/bachelorette weekend?

Also, two people in my bridal party do hair and makeup and have both made multiple comments about how they are going to do everyone's hair and makeup... I don't want them to... Is that mean? How do I tell them nicely that I don't want either of them to do it? What if they say they don't want to pay for hair/makeup but the company requires doing everyones hair/makeup?

Question #5: Voicemail

Mariah’s wedding was scheduled for March 21st, 2020. Her fiancé and she did a power wedding before the shelter in place went into effect. They rescheduled for June and then October.

They have paid for an entire wedding.

Her q’s:

• When should I start negotiating/talking with my vendors about possible refunds?
• Our vendors have been so flexible. But when should we call it? - How long should we wait before trying to schedule for 2022?

Links We Referenced

alpinerings.com - NEW promo code: BIGWEDDING15

unboringofficiant.com/bigwedding

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