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What are you addicted to?

The problem is we think porn addiction is purely mental… it is not. It is as much a physical addiction as any other drug. 

 

 

The difference between tolerance/ desensitization/ sensitization

*You build up a tolerance and need more and more exposure, morning noon night

*Desensitization is you need harder and harder

*Sensitization – you now need it not for the high, but to feel normal

 

Like an alcoholic – 

Tolerance: You need more alcohol 

Desensitization: You need harder liquor

Sensitization: You need more and harder just to feel normal (there is no high anymore)

you drink, soon you need to drink more then finally you need to drink just to feel normal (there is no high involved) 

 

 

 

TWO SYSTEMS in our brain at work during orgasm

Or

Why I like sex with my wife

 

(system 1) Porn exciting – but no sex (dopamine) builds tolerance

(system 2) Satisfying – actually having sex, endorphins trust, security

After sex “Honey I wrecked the car” – why did she feel safe to tell me in that moment? She felt safe!  

 

 

 

So here are some practical, tough, gut busting steps you can take on your way to a good counselor. But remember these are not the end all be all to conquering your addictions. 

1. Get rid of all things that you use in your addiction. Computer, internet, smart phone, etc… if it gives you access to porn then dump it.
2. If option one is not possible due to work then tell your boss that you have an addiction to porn and you must put some type of security software on your computer to monitor you and help you break this addiction. 
3. If you are a women dealing with self esteem issues you can do the same by taking a 6 month media fast. Get rid of all magazines, websites, movies, music etc… that cause you to fall into the comparison trap. 
4. Find a strong Christian who can help keep you accountable in these areas.
5. Begin to study God’s word and what he says about your issues. Memorizing scripture that you can go to war with. Place them up in your house where you can read them and meditate on them. 
6. Do a house cleaning of your past and ask yourself tough questions like where did this addiction start and why?
7. Find out what your triggers are that drive you to your addiction. Many women have a trigger with apparel shopping and low self-esteem. Many men have certain times of the day that they are bored or in front of their computer that causes them to look at porn. 
8. If you are married and struggling with porn then have sex with the lights on. Enjoy your spouse in every way possible. Build a library of mental images of your spouse and what you do in bed and how you enjoy each other. Proverbs 5:19 say’s to let your lovers breasts satisfy you at all times. The idea here is continually overflow your mind soul and body with exposure to her nakedness. 
9. If your issue is self esteem then understand that self esteem is not tied to image but rather tied to who Christ says you are He says:a. using your gifts and talents, b. learning how to overcome challenges and c. serving others. d.distinguish between three facets of perception: facts, interpretation, and emotion.
10. 10.Almost all addictions are tied to unhealthy relationships and friendships. You will have to break off some friends etc… in order to make this work. 

 

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