Episode 10 - Grounded Yearning: The Art of Breaking Open

We’ve mostly been taught in love to make it feel good.  But learning to expand into the ache of wanting but not having is a vital element for mature and empowering intimacy. In episode 10, I invite you to practice “grounded yearning” with me.

1:15 Distress or discomfort has value to us
1:50 Big feelings need big space
2:01 Think, an ocean trying to get through a garden hose
2:27 A definition of yearning
3:16 I want my emotions to energize, inspire and expand me - not drown me
3:30 You have to practice distress tolerance/self-soothing to receive the benefit of yearning (see resources below)
4:20 Let’s try a yearning experiment...
6:24 To savor what you once wanted to avoid
8:10 It’s not a “break apart” – it’s a “break open” -  into a bigger version of yourself
8:21 Choosing feeling stretches my emotional holding tank
9:00 Welcoming the ache of sad classical music
9:53 This week’s practice – saying yes to the yearning

Resources on distress tolerance and self soothing: Podcast "DBT + Me" On Spotify and Apple.  A Healing Space: Befriending Ourselves in Difficult Times by Matt Licata

Podcast produced by Sal DeRosalia
Music composed and performed by Aimee Mia Kelley
Photo by Giorgio Trovato via Unspash

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Contact Information

Dr. Jessica Tartaro
Intimacy Coach & Connection Facilitator
Pronouns "She" + "Her"

Telephone: 1 (480) 993-5562
Email: DrTartaro@gmail.com
Website: https://www.drjessicatartaro.com/

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