High Conflict with NY Times Best Selling Author and Journalist Amanda Ripley

🤼‍♂️ AMANDA RIPLEY is a New York Times bestselling author and an investigative journalist for The Atlantic and other magazines. Her books include High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out, The Smartest Kids in the World: And How They Got That Way, and The Unthinkable: Who Survives When Disaster Strikes—and Why. Ripley spent a decade writing about human behavior for Time magazine in New York, Washington, and Paris. Her stories helped Time win two National Magazine Awards.

 

→IN THIS EPISODE…Joe and Amanda discuss conflict; the different types, which conflict is good and which is bad. Amanda shares some incredible stories from the road while interviewing people who experienced high conflict in different ways from a gang member to a scholar of conflict who found himself in the same conflict he himself talks about how to avoid.

 

🔍 Breakdown with Amanda Ripley:

 

Chapter 1 (0:00) Intro

Joe introduces Amanda Ripley, New York Times bestselling author

 

Chapter 2 (2:51) Types of conflict

There are several different types of conflict, and not all of them are bad. Amanda explains the good kind of conflict and the bad conflict which is high conflict

 

Chapter 3 (8:59) How do you identify when you are in high conflict

Amanda includes a checklist in the back of her book to help identify, which she shares. Also, Amanda gives actionable tips on how to get out of it.

 

Chapter 4 (11:58) The Gary Freeman story

Gary Freeman is an attorney who is a conflict expert. He has been a guest lecturer at Harvard and Standford, so when his neighbors asked him to run for office in his little town he would be able to handle it, but things went very wrong. Amanda shares the story.

 

Chapter 5 (19:06) Tips from a gang member

Amanda worked with a gang member from Chicago which embodies the ultimate form of high conflict. He shares his story and his journey.

 

Chapter 6 (28:02) Changes in congress

Amanda talks about her views on congress and steps they need to take in order to get our limiting two-party system to a place of listening and out of humiliation

 

Chapter 7 (33:35) Company acquisition

Joe’s company was acquired and he reflects back with Amanda about the experience, and what someone can do to help ease the merging of two companies or teams.

 

Chapter 8 (36:47) Constructive criticism

Start with really active listening. Prove with your responses back that you have really heard them.

 

Chapter 9 (42:57) What would be an additional chapter

After the book was published, Amanda has heard so many great stories from people after they have read the book. One idea she would add would be about good conflict, and how it is transcendent. 

 

Chapter 10 (50:18) Wrap Up

Joe concludes the episode and invites Amanda to come back to talk about Smartest Kids on Earth.

Material Referenced in this interview:

→High Conflict 

→The Unthinkable

→The Smartest Kids in the World

 

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→https://www.amandaripley.com/

 

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