The Power of Honesty: Accountability and Disclosure in Recovery (Season 1: Episode #7)

The Power of Honesty:

Accountability and Disclosure in Recovery

In this episode of the Reclaim Podcast: Healing from Pornography and Rebuilding Your Life, Dr. Kevin Skinner explores how honesty, accountability, and disclosure accelerate the recovery process. Pornography thrives in secrecy and isolation, but when the truth is brought into the light, shame loses its grip and healing becomes possible.

Dr. Skinner shares a powerful story of a man living a double life, highlighting the freedom that comes when honesty replaces deception. He explains why accountability is essential—whether through a sponsor, group, mentor, or trusted friend—and how consistency in truth-telling builds integrity and self-confidence.

A major focus is on the disclosure process:

• For married/partnered individuals, disclosure must be thoughtful, structured, and often guided by a professional to avoid re-traumatizing a partner.

• For singles, disclosure means coming fully clean with oneself, with God (if spiritual), and with a trusted accountability partner—building transparency today to prepare for intimacy tomorrow.

The episode concludes with practical steps, journal prompts, and an invitation to track not just abstinence streaks but honesty streaks. Listeners are encouraged to begin sharing the truth in safe ways, moving from secrecy and self-deception toward a life of integrity and freedom.

📚 Recommended Resources

• Dr. Anna Lembke – Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence (on honesty as a path to freedom and behavior change).

• Human Intimacy: Reclaim Course – A 12-week journey covering recovery capital, emotional regulation, and disclosure preparation.

• Patrick Carnes – Out of the Shadows (a foundational work on secrecy, shame, and sexual compulsivity).

• Brene Brown – Daring Greatly (on vulnerability and the power of truth-telling).

• Accountability Tools – Daily accountability worksheet at humanintimacy.com/reclaim.