32. The Real Reason You Struggle to Control Your Triggers—And It Has Nothing to Do With Your Teen’s Attitude

Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm with your kids, only to lose it hours later? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this powerful episode, I get vulnerable about my own struggles with emotional triggers and shares the science-backed strategies that completely transformed my relationship with my son.

Discover why "trying harder" to control your triggers doesn't work (hint: it's neuroscience, not willpower), and learn the GPS Reset™—a simple 3-step framework you can implement today to stop reactive parenting patterns before they damage your connection with your child.

Whether you're parenting teens, tweens, or reconnecting with adult children, this episode will help you understand the hidden cognitive biases sabotaging your best intentions—and give you a clear roadmap to become the emotionally safe parent your kids need.

The GPS Reset™ Quick Reference

G - Guardrails: Write your rules when calm. "If my chest tightens, I leave for 2 minutes. No exceptions." Put it on the fridge. Tell your kids.

P - Posture Flip: Do the opposite of your threat response. Step back. Sit down. Lower your voice. Signal safety to your brain.

S - Self-Check: Ask "Would 8am-me be proud of this next move?" Reconnect to your rational self.

Remember it like directions: When you feel lost, use GPS.

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Disclaimer

This podcast provides general parenting education and support. It is not a substitute for professional mental health services. If you're experiencing severe parenting stress, depression, anxiety, or your child is showing signs of mental health issues, please consult a licensed therapist or counselor.