18. 5 Ways to Break the Grip of Perfectionism… Learning to Trust Yourself and Take Messy Action | How to Start Working Towards Your Goals & Dreams

In this episode of the Her Unlocked podcast, host Brittany Heyboer discusses perfectionism and its negative impact on personal growth and well-being. As a recovering perfectionist, she shares her personal experience and offers advice on how to break free from the grip of perfectionism. Brittany emphasizes the importance of embracing imperfection and taking messy action to achieve personal growth. 

 

She also shares five ways to break the hold of perfectionism, including developing self-compassion and learning to trust. Brittany encourages listeners to become more self-aware of the impact of perfectionism on their lives and to embrace living in the imperfect to cultivate more joy, peace, and abundance.

 

3 Powerful Questions: 

1. What is triggering your perfectionism?
2. What’s at stake if you continue down this path of perfectionism?
3. What new thought can you tell yourself when that perfectionistic thought comes forward?

 

Referenced Resources: 

Episode 14 - Learn to Validate Yourself 

Brittany on Instagram

Brene Brown - The Gifts of Imperfection

 

[Time Stamps of Episode Content]

*Perfectionism as a Badge of Honor [00:01:12]*

Brittany discusses how perfectionism can be seen as a badge of honor and how it can hold us back from personal growth and well-being.

 

*The Thoughts Behind Perfectionism [00:05:10]*

Brittany talks about the thoughts and stories that contribute to perfectionism, including the desire for validation from others and the need to control outcomes.

 

*The Impact of Managing People [00:11:39]*

How becoming a manager of people in a corporate setting was a defining moment in her life that fundamentally changed how she leads people and how she helps others lead themselves.

 

*Becoming a Mom [00:12:32]*

Speaker 0 shares how becoming a mom was the most humbling experience of her life and how dropping the perfectionistic mentality was crucial in order to let this season make her and not break her.

 

*Starting a Business [00:14:21]*

How starting her own business prompted Brittany to shed the weight of perfectionism and become highly aware of when it was showing up and how it was impacting her ability to move her business forward.

 

*Breaking the hold of perfectionism [00:21:03]*

Tips to overcome perfectionism, including uncovering your why, developing self-compassion, and taking messy action.