Whether intentional or not, you are being formed/trained into a person who loves. The only real questions will be: What am I being trained to love? And, how do I love rightly?
How do we become people who love rightly? We centre our whole selves on Jesus (with all of our heart and soul). We fix our eyes on Jesus and develop new habits that lead us to know him and be like him. But, this is only possible because he first loved us. (1 Jn. 4:19) “We love because he first loved us.”