40 - Finding Calm and Support in Divorce: A Conversation with Divorce Doula Betsy Kelly

2025-10-08

🎙️ Episode 40 — Finding Calm and Support in Divorce: A Conversation with Divorce Doula Betsy Kelly Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-MediatorGuest: Betsy Kelly, Divorce Coach & Host of Divorce Stories PodcastListen on: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyWebsite: highvibemediation.comInstagram: @highvibedivorce ✨ Episode Overview In this heartfelt and practical episode, Melissa welcomes Betsy Kelly, known online as The Divorce Doula. Betsy is...

🎙️ Episode 40 — Finding Calm and Support in Divorce: A Conversation with Divorce Doula Betsy Kelly

Host: Melissa Wheeler Farag, Attorney-Mediator
Guest: Betsy Kelly, Divorce Coach & Host of Divorce Stories Podcast
Listen on: Apple Podcasts | Spotify
Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @highvibedivorce

✨ Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and practical episode, Melissa welcomes Betsy Kelly, known online as The Divorce Doula. Betsy is a divorce coach, podcast host, and divorced mom who blends professional training with personal experience to help others navigate divorce with more clarity, calm, and intention.

They dive deep into what a divorce doula is, the power of nervous system regulation, why community and spirituality are essential during divorce, and how intentional daily choices can create a “high vibe” divorce that sets the stage for a better future.

This episode is short, sweet, and full of wisdom for anyone facing divorce — especially those seeking grounding, emotional support, and tools beyond the legal system.

🌿 Affirmation of the Episode

“Although letting go seems simple and easy, its ultimate effects are profoundly powerful.”

—from the Letting Go Deck, inspired by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
(Author of Letting Go, a must-read for anyone navigating spiritual and emotional healing through divorce.)

🧭 Key Topics & Takeaways

The Role of a Divorce Doula:
Betsy compares divorce coaching to her experience with a birth doula — a warm, wise guide helping clients make informed, values-aligned decisions throughout the process.
Nervous System Regulation During Divorce:
Regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all. Betsy helps clients identify personalized practices (e.g., meditation, intense exercise, journaling, music, holding kids) to stay grounded and make clear decisions.
Telling Your Divorce Story to Eradicate Shame:
Betsy shares her own divorce journey and why she launched the Divorce Stories Podcast — to give voice to experiences that are often hidden, isolating, or stigmatized.
Community, Spirituality & Support:
Both Melissa and Betsy emphasize the importance of leaning on community — whether spiritual, familial, or chosen — to combat the disorientation and social restructuring that often accompany divorce.
Coaching vs. Attorneys & Mediators:
A coach or doula provides emotional regulation and intentional guidance that attorneys and mediators, bound by their roles, cannot offer. This support can reduce conflict, save money, and improve outcomes.
Training & Professionalism in Divorce Coaching:
Betsy’s training through Divorce Coaches Academy centers on conflict resolution and structured sessions — highlighting the difference between trained professionals and unregulated “coaches.”
Daily Orientation Toward Your True North:
Betsy encourages listeners to ask themselves daily:
“What kind of divorce do I want? What do I want my kids to remember about this time?”
Small intentional actions add up to a radically different outcome.

🧘‍♀️ About Betsy Kelly

Website: betsykellycoaching.com
Podcast: Divorce Stories with Betsy Kelly on Apple Podcasts
TikTok: @divorcedoulabetsy

Betsy primarily works with women but is open to working with anyone seeking compassionate, structured guidance through divorce. Her standard coaching package includes six sessions over three months, with discovery calls available.

💬 Connect with Melissa

Website: highvibemediation.com
Instagram: @highvibedivorce
Free Discovery Call: Book Here

If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend. Divorce can feel isolating — keep the conversation going, support your loved ones, and remember to keep the vibes high and the conflict low.

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