In this episode, we delve into how to respond to narcissistic abuse of victims. Building upon last week’s discussion, we explore practical ways to identify, resist, and recover from the detrimental effects of narcissism in various aspects of life, including at work and in personal relationships. We draw on expert advice, including such things as recognizing narcissistic behaviors, setting assertive boundaries, and protecting one's mental and emotional well-being, as well as learning about effective communication techniques for m...
In this episode, we delve into how to respond to narcissistic abuse of victims. Building upon last week’s discussion, we explore practical ways to identify, resist, and recover from the detrimental effects of narcissism in various aspects of life, including at work and in personal relationships. We draw on expert advice, including such things as recognizing narcissistic behaviors, setting assertive boundaries, and protecting one's mental and emotional well-being, as well as learning about effective communication techniques for managing interactions with narcissists, such as the grey rock method and the B-I-F-F approach .
Intentions and prayers start at 25 minutes 6 seconds.
Suggested Intention Focus for this week
This week, as we reflect on protecting the wellbeing of those who are the victims of narcissistic abuse, we suggest holding as our main intention:
We will that we will stay mindful of how we spend our emotional and mental energy in every situation, knowing that we needn’t accept any negativity that is directed at us.
Please join us in holding this.
Help sources for victims of narcissistic abuse include the following:
General International and Virtual Support
Crisis Text Line: Offers 24/7 support for emotional abuse. Text CONNECT to 741741 (available in the USA, Canada, UK, and Ireland). https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/
Online Communities & Support Groups: Websites like NarcissistAbuseSupport.com (https://narcissistabusesupport.com/) and See Through NPD (https://www.seethrough.org.uk/) provide resources, survivor stories, and forums for those affected globally.
MyNARA App: A digital tool designed for narcissistic abuse recovery, accessible internationally. https://mynara.app/
Verywell Mind: Guides on finding narcissistic abuse support groups, including both in-person and online options. https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-find-a-narcissistic-abuse-support-group-5271477
Meetup Groups: Local and virtual groups, such as “Support for Victims of Narcissistic Abuse” on Meetup.com, offer peer support. https://www.meetup.com/scottsdales-narcissism-not-needed-conversational-group/
Country-specific resources (selected English-speaking countries)
USA & Canada
Crisis Text Line: Text CONNECT to 741741 for immediate support. https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/
Center for Hope WNY: Provides education, support groups, and referrals for victims of narcissistic abuse in the USA. https://centerforhopewny.org/
UK & Ireland
Crisis Text Line: Text CONNECT to 741741 (UK & Ireland). https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/emotional-abuse/
See Through NPD: UK-based resource offering information, validation, and community for victims of narcissistic abuse. https://www.seethrough.org.uk/
NHS and Local Domestic Abuse Services: Many local charities and NHS mental health services provide support for emotional and narcissistic abuse.
Australia & New Zealand
1800RESPECT (Australia): 24/7 national counselling line for family, domestic, and sexual violence. Phone: 1800 737 732, Text: 0458 737 732. https://www.1800respect.org.au/online-chat-1800respect
Lifeline (Australia): 24/7 crisis support. Phone: 13 11 14. https://www.lifeline.org.au/
MensLine Australia: Support for men and boys. Phone: 1300 789 9786.
DVConnect Womensline (Australia): Crisis support for women. Phone: 1800 811 811. https://www.dvconnect.org/womensline/
DVConnect Mensline (Australia): Support for men. Phone: 1800 600 636. https://mensline.org.au/
myDr.com.au: Information on narcissistic personality disorder and self-care strategies for those affected. https://mydr.com.au/mental-health/narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd/
New Zealand: While not specifically relating to narcissistic abuse, services exist such as Lifeline NZ (https://www.lifeline.org.nz/) and Women’s Refuge (https://womensrefuge.org.nz/).
Consider also what emotional support you may receive from trusted individuals such as friends, family, and counsellors, and legal and advocacy services that are available for victims of abuse.
Chapter markers:
00:00:00 Introduction
00:01:04 Understanding Narcissism in Leadership
00:01:48 Resilience Against Narcissistic Abuse
00:08:45 Building Support Networks
00:12:41 Communicating with a Narcissist
00:17:13 Navigating Workplace Challenges
00:21:48 Engaging with HR and Reporting
00:25:06 Intentions for Healing
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