66. Show, Don’t Tell: How to Navigate Skepticism from Loved Ones to Build Your Thriving Business

In this episode of Booked Out with Bre, I'm diving into a topic that many of us struggle with - navigating big dreams and goals when your partner is skeptical. As a mom and a Virtual Assistant business owner, I know firsthand the challenge of pursuing big visions when the people closest to us just don't "get it." I’m getting real about why asking for permission might be the very thing holding you back from your dreams and what to do about it.

I'm sharing my personal story of going after my goals while my husband was saying, "What in the world are you doing?!" From direct sales to building my own thriving VA business, I’ve learned that you don't need permission to chase your dreams, you need to own your power and take action. This isn't about marriage advice; it's about empowering you to make the moves you know you need to make and how to navigate it when your partner might not be totally on board.

Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:

• Why traditional gender roles and the need for stability can cause partners to be skeptical of your dreams and your business journey.

• The neuroscience behind why your brain (and your partner's!) prefers the "safety" of the status quo, even when it's not serving you.

• How I navigated my husband's skepticism when I started my business.

• Why asking for permission can be a huge power drain and what to do instead.

• The power of "showing instead of telling" to overcome skepticism and prove your vision is possible.

• Why it's crucial to hold onto your vision and why you can’t let other people’s limitations become your reality.

• How to build a business and grow your confidence while still maintaining your family equilibrium.

• How to maximize your time and accomplish big goals, especially when you’re a busy mom juggling work, kids, family and everything else in between.

• The importance of intentionality and consistency and how focusing on daily non-negotiables can lead to massive success in your Virtual Assistant business

• The importance of vulnerability and open and honest communication to maintain a strong relationship with your partner while pursuing big dreams.

• A reminder that it's your life and your journey – and you get to decide how you show up, what you go after, and what you choose to do, regardless of your partner’s opinions.

This episode is a permission slip to do your thing, go after what’s in your heart, and bet on yourself. If you've ever felt like your partner doesn't understand your vision, tune in now, because you are not alone!

 

Episode Outline:

• Building Something Massive: My Vision From Day One (00:00:00)

• Navigating Big Goals with a Skeptical Partner (00:01:37)

• A Disclaimer: This Is Not Marriage Advice (00:02:16)

• The Push for Autonomy: Starting My Entrepreneurial Journey After Corporate (00:02:55)

• Joining a Direct Sales Company: Taking the First Step (00:04:36)

• The Skeptical Partner: Navigating Conflicting Perspectives (00:04:56)

• Why Your Partner Might Not Be Supportive: Stability, Safety, and the Provider Role (00:08:16)

• The Neuroscience of Change: Why Our Brains Prefer the Status Quo (00:09:13)

• Making the Moves: Investing in My Virtual Assistant Business Without Permission (00:10:15)

• The Choice: Choosing to Follow My Heart and Pursue My Vision (00:12:16)

• Putting My Head Down and Doing the Work: Building in the Margins (00:12:59)

• Showing Instead of Telling: Sharing My Success with My Husband (00:13:40)

• Your Husband Isn't Your Daddy: You Don't Need Permission, You Need Support (00:15:16)

• The Power of Awareness: Understanding Your Partner's Perspective (00:15:53)

• What If You Were To Just Do It? (00:16:18)

• The Power of Single-Minded Focus and Healthy Delusion (00:17:14)

• The Show, Don't Tell Methodology: Proving Your Vision (00:17:54)

• Navigating a Business Build With a Skeptical Partner (00:18:12)

• The Importance of Intentionality and Utilizing Pockets of Time (00:19:37)

• Building Your Non-Negotiables: Daily Actions for Success (00:20:17)

• The Power of Laying the Foundations For Future Success (00:21:42)

• Stop Treating Your Husband Like a Daddy: Own Your Autonomy (00:22:12)

• The Power of Results and Proof of Concept (00:22:41)

• From Skeptic to Fan: My Husband's Transformation (00:22:53)

• Vulnerable Conversations: Navigating Conflicting Perspectives (00:23:26)

• Your Takeaways: Reflections, Triggers, and Experiences (00:24:07)

• A Reminder: It's Your Life, Go Get It (00:24:51)

• Wrapping Up: Let's Connect and Spread the Booked Out Mission (00:25:17)

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