ARE YOU A WHEELER DEALER? HOW TO FIND YOUR PARTNER-IN FUN FOR A LIFETIME OF EXCITING ADVENTURE AND EMPIRE BUILDING AS AN ESTJ (MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE)

Do you crave a relationship that’s fast-paced, full of possibilities, and built on action, ambition, and mutual hustle? If so, you may be the Wheeler Dealer LoveType (ESTJ on the Myers-Briggs personality test)—the bold, pragmatic go-getter who turns dreams into deals and wants a partner who’s just as driven. On our Love University podcast, we explored the romantic firepower of the Wheeler Dealer—one of the most dynamic and forward-moving LoveTypes from my book LoveTypes (lovetype.com). Here's what we uncovered:

As a Wheeler Dealer, you love to lead, organize, and execute. You thrive on results—whether it’s launching a business, planning a major trip, or crushing your goals side-by-side with a partner-in-action. You're the type who thinks love should be useful and exciting—about building something real and lasting together. You believe in fun, excitement, smart risks, and doing what works—especially if it gets you both further, faster.

At the same time, your strong personality and focus on achievement can sometimes overshadow emotional nuance. You may struggle with vulnerability or grow impatient with partners who aren’t as efficient or goal-oriented as you are. You want passion—but also progress. And if you feel that your time or effort isn’t respected, you won’t stick around for very long.

The good news? When you match with someone who shares your appetite for adventure and appreciates your powerhouse drive, love becomes not just satisfying—it becomes an empire.

To help you find and keep your ideal co-creator in life and love, consider these power moves:

• Pick a Partner Who Plays to Win With You: You don’t want a bystander—you want a collaborator. Look for someone who supports your vision, shares your energy, and isn’t afraid to dream big and move fast.
• Make Room for Heart, Not Just Hustle: Your natural strength is action—but don’t forget the power of emotional connection. A little softness, presence, and listening can deepen your bond beyond strategy and plans.
• Celebrate Your Inner CEO of Love: You run things well—whether in business or romance. Just be sure your partner feels like a true equal, not just a team member on your mission. Remember: Shared leadership equals shared joy.

Ultimately, your love story will thrive when it’s fueled by passion, purpose, and mutual respect. With the right partner by your side, you won’t just build a relationship—you’ll build a legacy—one thrilling, laughter-filled deal at a time.