54 | Minute of Intent: Sparkler or Firework Mom? The Truth About Mom Guilt and Milestones

2025-07-03

💖 Hey Mama, Do you ever feel guilty for not making your kid’s birthday a bigger deal? Like if there’s no huge party or Pinterest-perfect plan, you’re somehow falling short? In this Minute of Intent, I’m opening up about a quiet celebration we had for my son’s 13th birthday—and the guilt that crept in afterward. I had to face the truth about my expectations, my identity, and the pressure we put on ourselves around milestones. That’s when I realized something powerful: I’m a Sparkler Mom, not a Firework Mom. And maybe you are too.

💖 Hey Mama,

Do you ever feel guilty for not making your kid’s birthday a bigger deal? Like if there’s no huge party or Pinterest-perfect plan, you’re somehow falling short?

In this Minute of Intent, I’m opening up about a quiet celebration we had for my son’s 13th birthday—and the guilt that crept in afterward. I had to face the truth about my expectations, my identity, and the pressure we put on ourselves around milestones. That’s when I realized something powerful: I’m a Sparkler Mom, not a Firework Mom. And maybe you are too.

If you’ve ever wrestled with guilt, comparison, or overwhelm around how you celebrate, this episode is for you. Let’s take the pressure off and focus on what actually matters—purpose, presence, and memories that reflect your values.

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Key Takeaways

Why mom guilt shows up around birthdays and milestones—even when your child is happy
How your celebration style connects to your identity as a mom
The difference between Sparkler Moms and Firework Moms—and why both are valid
What it looks like to plan a day based on your child’s desires, not cultural expectations
How letting go of “big event” pressure can lead to more intentional, connection-filled memories
A mindset shift to help you embrace your way of celebrating without the overwhelm