Porn to Pieces 5

 

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Patrick J. Moynahan a US Senator who served for 40 years under both parties was asked the greatest change in the 40 years he was in office. He said it was the disintegration of the family. Divorce and the non biblical family structure have now become common place.

MIGHT I SUBMIT TO YOU TODAY – that we aint seen nothing yet. This family disintegration came at a time where we were still able to bond and connect emotionally, mentally and socially.

 

**MEANING THAT THIS PAST GENERATION AT LEAST HAD THE MENTAL, EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL CAPACITY TO FORM HUMAN BONDS

WE NOW ARE RAISING A GENERATION THAT CANT EVEN BOND DUE TO PORN…

WE ARE RAISING BREEDERS – NOT PARENTS!

 

 

The brain is wired to experience love on 3 levels

Beta

Delta 

Gamma

 

There are 3 levels that the brain has given men and woman to connect on

 

Phileo – Kindred, caring Nurturing love

Agape – Love you as my own, an undying love

Eros – hot passionate sexual love

 

Each has it’s own neural network with it’s own motives.  If grown together IN MARRIAGE , full blown harmony and  it flourishes!  

 

 

When we just work one system the others shrink while the other takes over! 

 

***If after a sexual act one cannot cuddle, communicate and share each others presence it destroys the high and the bonding. 

You then look for a new high!

 

 

The worst case scenario is with Delta foss b – a chemical based protein that builds up in the brain and in time spills over like dominoes and flips a genetic switch and literally changes the structure of the brain.

Neoplasticity – rewires your literal brain tissue

 

I am no scientist but my guess is that over time it will begin to show up in newborn babies, much like fetal alcohol syndrome.  A women drinks enough and it actually affects the genetic make up of the child.

 

What do women want? I know the secret! I really do!

I have had numerous conversations with couples where I will stop and say that I know the secret. When they ask me what I am talking about, I will say that I know the secret of what women want. Sometimes I say this to bait a man to come back to counseling. I tell him to come back one more time and I will tell him what that secret is. And with that I will lean over and whisper the secret into his wife’s ear and she will laugh or smile and say that I am absolutely right. So do you want to know the secret? Ok, send me $500 in unmarked bills… ok, kidding. Here is the secret men: Women want a man who wants for them what they want! Ok, guys we can be a little slow so let me unpack that for you. Your wife wants to have a husband that knows her enough and understands her enough that he knows what she wants specifically and knows women enough to know what she wants overall. Easy as pie, right? Ok, I got to admit I am as dumb as the next guy when it comes to this… but I have done my research.

What do women want specifically…. That one is on you- ask ?’s make notes

 

A final word to the women

Women you need intimacy and romance more then men. Due to this women can lust over romanticism. Constantly comparing their marriage romanticism to (and lack thereof) to the latest and greatest movie, couple next door or Hollywood star. So ladies if you are reading this please understand the addiction and destruction of such attitudes. You may have a great self-esteem and you may love your life all except for the fact that you feel like you deserve more romanticism from your husband. You need to fess up to this and talk to your husband about it. 

And here is another hint to all the women out there… why do most men hate romantic movies? Two reasons; first, they feel like they are being judged by them. The average guy and even the above average guy can’t compete with the romantic scene in the movie. If your husband came home all excited because he bought you both front row tickets for the upcoming bikini fashion show, how would you feel? This is how your husband feels when you watch endless hours of lifetime for women movies. Secondly, many men have admitted to me secretly that they hate those movies because while a wife will romanticize over the passionate scenes in a movie, in real life she barely lets her husband kiss her or make love to him. If you don’t understand what I mean by this then imagine yourself losing 25 pounds or getting your hair done or picking up that perfect little black dress only to feel like your husband deep down inside is comparing you to the starlet on the cover of People magazine. It doesn’t bode well. 

 

Here are some more simple guidelines to live by. Men are pretty simple (me included) feed them, share your respect for them and have sex with them and just like your shampoo bottle says “rinse and repeat”. Do this frequently and life is a whole lot easier.

 

 

Guys you are not off the hook. Women need to have meaningful conversation and be romantically wooed in a regular basis. There are times I will sit and listen to my wife talk about stuff I don’t understand, care about or think is even remotely important… but it quickly turns into an emotional connection which makes for a great sexual connection. Sometimes I will even try to be romantic like the time I snuck home in the middle of the day and put a dozen roses on the table and snuck back out. The problem was that I closed the garage door behind me (it was open when I came home) because I wanted her to come downstairs and see the flowers. Unfortunately the garage door was up because she went for a walk with the dogs and came home and was locked out of the house. This was before the “cell phone” era and she was locked out until I got home 4 hours later. She was not happy, but you can be darn sure I was happy when I got home to let her in and there were roses on the counter… and yes we laughed about it and the make up sex was worth it. It is always the thought that counts more than the perfect romantic experience.