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9-19-19 Thursday

 

 

 

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  -  5  “I Guess I’m Incompetent to Run My Life”

Josh. 24:15 But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, 

Choose this day whom you will serve. 

In doing that you lose the right to blame anyone but yourself.

Choosing = taking responsibility 

 

Im either choosing God and his ways over mine or I am choosing my own ways… my own idols.

But I am choosing. By choosing I am giving up my excuses and blame. 

 

“I Guess I’m Incompetent to Run My Life”

Bruce Larson tells of attending a seminar where Dr. William Glasser, the founder of Reality Therapy, was speaking. Dr. Glasser’s talk had one main theme: Healthy people do not make excuses. He used as an example the tendency people have to make excuses when they are late for an appointment. They will say the traffic was heavy, they got a last-second phone call, a crisis came up at the office, and so on. Dr. Glasser argued those kinds of excuses cover up the real issue. If you are late, it is because you are incompetent to run your own life. He suggested that instead of making a lame excuse the next time you are late, simply say, “I’m sorry. I guess I’m incompetent to run my own life.”

 

 

 

 

   - 6  BLAME ISOLATES US

Daniel 3 Shad Shack and Benny went through the fire but did not smell like smoke. Some people go thru hard times and they smell like smoke, they have words that blame. 

 

Another consequence of blaming is that the blamer, by alienating healthy, mature, accountable, respectful people, finds himself or herself spiraling downward into either social isolation or into a social circle of similarly destructive and low-functioning blamers. After all, birds of a feather flock together. To say the least, blaming can lead to a very unhappy social life.

There is a solution to blaming, however. It starts with awareness of when we are blaming. Other people, especially mature, healthy people, can help us with this if we only make a commitment to listen to their feedback. When we notice we are blaming, we need to stop and reflect, with humility and self-acceptance, upon what happened, and our role in the situation.

 

Tomorrow we talk about how to quit blaming.