Exploring God’s Design for Marriage and Headship with Pastor Scott LaPierre

2023-02-20

Headship in Christian marriage is a concept that is often misunderstood and misused, leading to harmful power imbalances and the perpetuation of patriarchal attitudes. But what if we told you that, in God’s design for marriage, headship is not about entitlement or domination, but rather a call to sacrificial love and servant leadership?

In this episode, we dive into the true meaning of headship in Christian marriage, exploring the roles and responsibilities that come with it and challenging the harmful misconceptions that have plagued this important topic for too long.

Headship in God’s Design for Marriage
In Christian marriage, the concept of headship is paramount. It is a role that involves leadership, strength, and guidance. As the spiritual leader of the family, the husband is expected to provide examples of how to live a life that honors God’s will. This means being a solid example of faith, passion, and integrity that actively leads his family in their relationship with Jesus Christ.

Jesus set an example of servant leadership when he washed the feet of His disciples, John 13:4-17. He placed Himself in a position of service to those who followed His leadership.

Ephesians 5:21 (NIV) says to, “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” I often encourage husbands to go ahead and skip to verse 25, because that is where the letter specifically addresses us.

The concept of headship in Christian marriage is rooted in scripture and implies a divinely-ordained order of authority within the family unit. The Bible makes it clear that the husband is to be the head of his wife, much like Christ is the head of the Church. This does not mean that husbands are meant to dominate their wives or make decisions without consulting them; rather, headship calls for a strong leader who takes responsibility for leading his wife and family according to God's will. It also includes providing spiritual guidance and protection, while nurturing and caring for one’s spouse with love and compassion.

In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. The odds of divorce for couples who experienced divorce as children.
2. How it is possible to have equality in a marriage relationship and headship?
3. That time when Jerry was called to take on the headship of his marriage.
3. If committing to a biblical marriage, what responsibilities do Christian husbands have?

Scott LaPierre - Teaching Pastor, Author, and Speaker
Scott LaPierre is the teaching pastor of Woodland Christian Church in Woodland, WA, an author, and conference speaker. He holds an MA in Biblical Studies from Liberty University. Scott and his wife, Katie, have nine children and they are passionate homeschooling advocates. Scott is a former schoolteacher and Army officer. Learn more about Pastor Scott at his we