Marriage A to Z: Are you an Encourager in your Marriage?

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Encourage One Another
Define: the act of giving someone support, confidence or hope

Why?
It’s a command in the Bible.
We all need encouragement. Life is hard.
You’re in the best position to encourage. (closest to them, know them best)
Part of what builds the relationship – foundational, maintenance-type
You benefit from this, too!
By trying to do this, you learn what encouragement is, what gifts you might have, grow in your  ability to do this in family and to others.

What is encouragement?
Intentional  (There is an unintentional encouragement. Being a growing Christian, etc.)
 Underlying theme/goal is to BE an encourager – apply thought and effort into what it looks   like.
May be different depending on the person – 
* words – affirming, gratefulness, expressing love/care,
* actions – serving, meeting a need, put them first, physical touch (hug), listen well,
* being there – be present.

How do I encourage my spouse?
Clearly make them a priority.
Write a note.
Remind them of promises in Scripture.
Commit time to them. A date, a walk, available
Pray together.
Personal experience – how I’ve been encouraged; etc.
Know what they like/enjoy; provide it. (If you don’t know, ask!) - day at spa
Be growing spiritually, studying. It will provide a reservoir to draw from. Outflow

-- General info versus Specific to you– Communicate to each other about what is most encouraging to you. Specifically ask, “What is most helpful from me when you’re feeling down, etc.”