Is it actually possible to ”outshine” someone?

2022-01-11

The advice to "just shine your light" is common enough that there are memes about it. But there is also this idea that it is possible to make others look/feed badly by being "too good." The easiest example is someone feeling guilty for having dessert or a drink if you choose not to; but there are countless other situations where you might be asked to "dim your light" so others don't feel bad. I ask Diane Helbig, Christina Kelley and Atif Agha for their thoughts on the subject. The conversation was ...

The advice to "just shine your light" is common enough that there are memes about it. But there is also this idea that it is possible to make others look/feed badly by being "too good."

The easiest example is someone feeling guilty for having dessert or a drink if you choose not to; but there are countless other situations where you might be asked to "dim your light" so others don't feel bad.

I ask Diane Helbig, Christina Kelley and Atif Agha for their thoughts on the subject. The conversation was different than I expected. That is part of what makes Quick Hits so much fun.

What do you think? Should we worry about "outshining" others?

This is the quote that Diane mentions:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson

To learn about the panelists, please visit their LinkedIn profiles:
Christina Kelley: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christina-kelley-3a098514/
Atif Agha: https://www.linkedin.com/in/atifagha/
Diane Helbig: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dhelbig/
Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

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