S8 - Chapter 10: Conflict

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In this chapter, we explore conflict as an inevitable and essential part of any healthy relationship between two distinct individuals. While often viewed as threatening or destructive, conflict—when approached constructively—can serve as a powerful tool for learning, connection, and growth, much like the scientific method that refines understanding through testing and revision. Brian discusses his lifelong fear of conflict, rooted in a childhood marked by anger, shame, and emotional immaturity, and how those early lessons led to patterns of avoidance, people-pleasing, and self-betrayal in adulthood. He distinguishes conflict from abuse, noting that when conflict becomes a weapon of control, it ceases to serve any productive purpose. Through his relationship with Stephanie, however, Brian has learned to reframe conflict from something to escape into something to engage with—using honesty, empathy, and curiosity to transform it into a shared learning process. 

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