185: From Fizzle to Sizzle: Rekindling Passion and Navigating Mismatched Desires in Long-Term Relationships

In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome Dr. Nazanin licensed clinical psychologist specializing in addictions, eating disorders, sexual health, and mental wellness. She is also the host of the renowned Sexology podcast, which boasts over 400 episodes exploring various facets of intimacy and relationships. 

Together, we delve into one of the most common challenges faced in long-term relationships: reigniting passion and navigating mismatched desires. We discuss how to move from “roommates” to romantic partners, explore reasons behind dwindling attraction, and offer actionable advice for reconnecting with your partner on an intimate level. 

Key Topics Covered: 

• Defining Sexless Relationships: What constitutes a sexless marriage, and why it might not always mean what you think. 

• Causes of Diminished Desire: Life stressors, parenting, unresolved relational issues, and how these factors impact intimacy. 

• Shame and Guilt Around Desire: Addressing guilt, especially in the context of illness or changing life stages and rediscovering the joy of pleasure. 

• Rekindling Connection: Tips for reigniting the spark, such as reflecting on past intimacy, introducing novelty, and creating space for open conversations about desires and fantasies. 

• Practical Tools and Strategies: 

• The Sexy Happy Hour technique: A light-hearted way to explore fantasies, give feedback, and reignite passion. 

• Incorporating romance: Holding hands, going on dates, and reminiscing about exciting moments from the early days of your relationship. 

• Using games or prompts to foster communication and curiosity about intimacy. 

Memorable Quotes: 

• “Predictability leads us to lose attraction. Introducing novelty and curiosity can reignite that spark.” 

• “When we’re turned into roommates instead of romantic partners, it’s time to intentionally prioritize connection and intimacy.” 

Actionable Takeaways: 

• Start small: Plan a romantic date or set aside time for a Sexy Happy Hour. 

• Reflect on your core erotic emotions: What experiences excite and connect you? 

• Open the conversation: Talk about desires and fantasies in a non-judgmental and curious way. 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Sexology Podcast  

• Relationship and intimacy games for couples 

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