Afraid You’ll Mess This Up? How to Stop Analysis Paralysis After Infidelity (Regulate First, Decide Second)
“Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.”
— Lora Cheadle
Terrified you’ll make the wrong move and “blow up” your life—even though you didn’t cause the betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down why smart, high-achieving women get stuck in analysis paralysis after infidelity and how to shift from panic to self-trust. Learn to spot fight/flight/free...
Afraid You’ll Mess This Up? How to Stop Analysis Paralysis After Infidelity (Regulate First, Decide Second)
“Just because you make the final decision does not mean you were the cause.”
— Lora Cheadle
Terrified you’ll make the wrong move and “blow up” your life—even though you didn’t cause the betrayal? In this episode, Lora Cheadle breaks down why smart, high-achieving women get stuck in analysis paralysis after infidelity and how to shift from panic to self-trust. Learn to spot fight/flight/freeze/fawn (fix), regulate your nervous system in minutes, and make clear decisions you won’t regret. You’ll also get a powerful responsibility reframe (final decision ≠ cause) plus Lora’s unforgettable “dog-poop on the carpet” analogy to help you choose the right next step—therapy, coaching, or pause—without fear of “messing it up.” Perfect for women ready to reclaim their voice, their worth, and their future.
Top 3 Takeaways
- Regulate before you decide: Identify fight/flight/freeze/fawn and use quick somatic resets to bring your thinking brain back online.
- Final decision ≠ cause: Choosing divorce—or staying—doesn’t mean you “blew it up.” Accountability stays with the betrayer.
- Your strengths were hijacked, not wrong: You weren’t cheated on because you’re weak; your high-achiever traits were exploited. Use them now to choose wisely.
“You were not cheated on because you’re worthless. You were cheated on because you’re powerful.” – Lora Cheadle
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.
After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.
A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.
She is the author of FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self (an International Book Awards Finalist and Tattered Cover Bestseller) and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive. She also hosts the podcast FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity and Betrayal. Learn more at www.loracheadle.com and follow me across all social!
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