Is guilt about disappointing myself or disappointing someone else?

Guilt is often felt when we don’t live up to a standard of some kind. But I wondered if it was an internal standard or if it was an external one placed upon us by others.

 

I have noticed that I feel A LOT less guilt than I used to and I don’t let people send me on guilt trips.

 

I was fortunate to have a global perspective on this conversation. Ursula Manvatkar is in the United Arab Emeritus. Atif Agha grew up in Pakistan and has been in the US for 25 years. While Lisa McDonald and I were born and live in the US.

 

It was an interesting discussion looking at the guilt of doing something wrong versus the guilt of not meeting an expectation.

 

We touched on the idea that those expectations can be cultural, family or self-imposed.

 

There is also an aspect of confidence. The more confident someone is in who they are and the decisions they make the harder it is for someone else to make them feel guilty.

 

What do you think? Is guilt about an expectation you have of yourself or something someone else has for you that you have failed to meet?

 

Connect with the panelists:
Atif Agha: https://www.linkedin.com/in/atifagha/

Ursula Manvatkar DipM MCIM: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ursula-manvatkar-dipm-mcim-chartered-marketer-39065910/ 

Lisa McDonald: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fearlesslisam/

Dr Robyn Odegaard: https://www.linkedin.com/in/robynodegaard/

 

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