Welcome to your Thursday, thrive in five. Your five minute pause from the chaos, the gaslighting and that text you knew better than to reply to take a breath queen. This one's for you. If your brain keeps going back to what did I do wrong or what's wrong with me, this is your five minute reset today, especially after Tuesday's episode, all about why narcissists cheat, right? And not having any guilt. We're going to get rid of that. So the part of you that is still taking responsibility for their betrayal, can we say that again? There's part of you that is taking responsibility for their betrayal is the part we're going to release right now. Alright, so step one, we need to interrupt that mental chaos going on. So say this out loud or in your head, repeat after me. Their cheating was a reflection of their emptiness, not my worth.
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Right? We are not allowing your brand to keep making their behavior means something about you anymore. We're done. Okay, step two, we're going to ground that nervous system. So let's take a minute here. If you're in a place, you can, if not save this episode or this part for later and place one hand on your chest and one on your belly and you're going to breathe in for four seconds in 1, 2, 3, 4. Hold for two seconds. One, two, and exhale. 4, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Yes. Get it all out. Okay. And as you continue your regular breaths, tell your body, I am safe from their chaos. Now I am safe from their chaos. Now the body needs to receive that message from you, not from them. We want it from them. We want to get validation and answers all the things. No ma'am. We're not going to seek it from them anymore. Alright, now step three, the identity statement. So you are not someone who got cheated on. That's not going to be your identity. You are someone who survived a professional manipulator and more. But we'll keep it just in the basics here, right? That's a very different identity, isn't it? So with that, you can have a mantra of I was never lacking. They were, we're not going to take ownership for their lacking. I was never lacking. They were.
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All right. Step four, the forward focus. When your brain tries to replay the cheating or compare you to someone else, I want you to pause and say, I don't recycle pain to understand it. There's no more recycling that needs to go on here. There is no new meaning hiding in your old wounds. So we stop going backward to decode people who were not operating in real love the way we think of love and we think about connection is not the way a narcissist does. Okay? So trying to decode why or how, I mean I gave you some reasons why on Tuesday's episode, but playing it all back recycling, it is not how Queen's going to spend their life. No. We can learn it and heal from it. So the power is not an analyzing their betrayal. The power is in protecting your heart going forward.
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And that's doing some healing. Yes, but it's also protecting it moving forward. And if that means boundaries, distance, silence, the gray rock method. I'll try to remember to put that episode. If you don't know what the gray rock method is, girl, you're in for a fun one. I have one or two episodes, I forget if it's one or two, I do have at least one episode on the Gray Rock Method, okay? But that's exactly where your peace lives. Next in the protection mode, in the it is time to take care of me mode. This is your queen era. Did you not get the memo queen? Better get used to be called queen. Okay? Hold your power. You've earned it, you have earned it, and you are deserving of peace and of power and you can will get it. You can just show up doing right now, just watching these podcasts or listening to these podcasts, if you want to do some really transformational mind blowing shit, you are there and you are like, I want to change my life and I'm ready.
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I have an insane program. It's customized to you. It is three months that is literally priceless. And guess who you get to talk to once a week? Yours truly. Okay. I mean in that a bonus, no, I'm just kidding. So my Queens of Peace program, which guys, I have literally one spot left and this is individual work, but to maintain my schedule and I've had people that could not sign up. My schedule is so tight right now, people couldn't when I sent the link and if they didn't sign up right away when we did it, their spot did get filled. So they have to be pushed to next week. I don't like that. So I'm going to have to see what I can do to add a little space in. But so that's why I only have one spot right now.
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If you are a queen, even if you don't feel like a queen right now, if you are queening, you are wanting to be queening. No. If you have been in a toxic relationship and you are coming out of it, out of it, I do require that you do not live with the narcissist. If this is your partner, your marriage partner, I do not work with people who are currently in that situation. You must be separated out of the house. Most my clients are divorced. If it's someone in your family that's a different situation and we can talk about that.
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Your mother-in-law or someone you're dealing with, that's a whole different story. But most of my clients do seem to be co-parenting and the not just navigating a narcissist and how to deal with them, but healing what trauma you have gone through and the damage that has been done. We do coaching and we do somatic healing. And both of those things together, you will have insane transformation in three months. And that sounds like a lot. I'm going to tell you it goes by quick. But there are epic results. So if you're really ready and you're going to show up every week and you're going to sign up and make sure you get a spot, it's once a week. It's one hour. We do everything from coaching to somatic healing, which is healing from the body. If you don't know today, I had some amazing magical journeys. I call 'em soul locations because really we get to go on these beautiful kind of mind journeys like deep meditations, but they're so specific to you and every single time we do these clients have mind blowing results. I mean these journeys are epic. And that's why I love, I keep saying epic, I sound like such a nerd, but I, that's the only word I can use for myself, for my clients.
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That's why I got certified. I did it myself and was like, this shit's epic. It was. You come out of it and you get clarity on your own. You have more self-trust, more self-confidence. It's just so beautiful. So if you are ready, if you are that woman that has been like, yeah, maybe I should do this or this is brand new, you just popped up in here, but you're ready to actually have lasting change to understand narcissists, be able to navigate them and have that inner calm, right? Like fuck the frazzle, can that be a t-shirt? I make? Fuck the frazzle. We don't need to be frazzled the rest of our lives. Okay? You deserve more here. A queen of peace. It's why it's called Queens of Peace program. Okay? So check the show notes on the ways to work with me one-on-one for this program that there will be a link.
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It is the three month journey with me and you get Voxer in between. So once a day you can leave a message on my Voxer and I'll get back to you within 24 hours. It's Monday through Friday and I mean if there's an emergency you can try on the weekend and if I can, I'll get back to you. I do try to check even on the weekends so it's more support. So a lot of people earlier on in their journey do that. And then there's people that have maybe even been divorced for years, but there's just so much. They're going through a lot mentally, physically, and need a little extra support in between calls. So that's an extra fun thing in the three month journey as opposed to the monthly option. Both will be listed there. Check 'em out. You can read all about the three month one in that link. And then you can email me with any questions. My email's already always in the show notes too. And come join the free Facebook. It's a private Facebook page.
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Yeah, so I know that was a lot of little babble at the end, but I'm telling you guys this work, it excites me every time I get off the phone with a client, I'm like, I'm so glad that I heard the calling from God that he needed me to do this podcast and what it's led to. It's amazing. And I want to share what I have learned, all the tools I have and take people on these awesome journeys to back to yourself. Is that what you're looking for? That's how to sum it up. I know we have these, there's peace, there's this, but it's getting back to you and yourself and at the core, your home inside yourself, which is the most comfortable, peaceful, joyful, amazing place to be. That's where God wants you to be. That's where you belong. So we need to get you back there.
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So if you want to get back there and you will show up for yourself once a week. And I'm not crazy strict, obviously if you're sick or something, we have to skip a week, okay? We extend it. But I do want people who are committed to this, I am committed to you. This is my life's work. I'm real serious about it, okay? This is my purpose. My purpose is to help every single woman I can, the most I can. So you deserve to find that self. She's in there and she's beautiful and glittery and she's wearing an amazing gold crown. Let's go find her. If you're ready to find her, go click that link. Sign up. I do have one spot left and soon I will have zero. So get on it. If you are really wanting to make a transformation for yourself that lasts and get to hang out with me again. So fun. Alright, love you guys. See you the next, I keep saying see you. I don't see you. Maybe in my mind I feel like I don't know what to say. Seeing the next video, it's not a video. I used to do YouTube videos all the time, so I always say that. But thanks for listening. I'll see you in the next episode in my mind. Okay, love you, deuces.
