The HR Lady on Tough Conversations, Personality Styles, and Leading People Well

2025-12-10

When your workplace feels a little too spicy, who do you call? In this conversation, Lynsey sits down with Wendy Sellers, The HR Lady®, to talk about what it really takes to be a leader people will follow willingly, not just a manager with a title. Wendy is an HR consultant, speaker, mentor, and author of two boldly titled books: “Suck It Up, Buttercup: Be a Leader People Will Follow” and “How to Deal with Crappy Leaders and Jerks at Work”. With nearly 30 years of experience guiding companies from 5 to 5,000 employee...

Wendy is an HR consultant, speaker, mentor, and author of two boldly titled books: “Suck It Up, Buttercup: Be a Leader People Will Follow” and “How to Deal with Crappy Leaders and Jerks at Work”. With nearly 30 years of experience guiding companies from 5 to 5,000 employees, she has seen it all and is not afraid to tell the truth about leadership, culture, and accountability.

In this episode, you will hear:

Why the majority of problems at work are really communication problems
How personality styles and traits (think DISC, introvert, extrovert, ambivert) shape every interaction
Simple ways women in leadership can adjust how they communicate without being inauthentic
What real active listening looks like when you are stressed, busy, and managing a full plate
How to have hard conversations without crushing your team or losing yourself
A practical “acting lesson” you can use to shift your style for 15 minutes and finally be heard

Wendy and Lynsey get honest about being high D personalities, missing social cues, learning to “shut up and listen,” and how to repair relationships when communication has gone sideways. You will walk away with concrete steps you can use tomorrow to improve engagement, build trust, and lead with more clarity and confidence.

If you are a woman in leadership who is tired of sugarcoated advice and wants real tools to navigate people, performance, and personality differences, this episode is for you.

One line to take with you:

“Adjusting your style for someone else is not being fake, it is being an effective leader.” Wendy Sellers

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