Ep18 | The Power of the Pause: Why You Need to Stop Hustling and Start Living

2025-05-26

Have you ever felt guilty for slowing down?Like if you’re not grinding 24/7, you’re somehow falling behind? In this raw and radiant episode of The Selfish Now Podcast, identity liberation coach Dr. Onaysia Martinez gets real about what it means to pause on purpose. She unpacks the toxic cycles of high-functioning anxiety, survival mode, and people-pleasing that so high-functioning women are silently trapped in—then walks you through what it really looks like to reclaim your time, energy, and joy. Dr. Onaysia shares her story of walking away from a high-...

Have you ever felt guilty for slowing down?
Like if you’re not grinding 24/7, you’re somehow falling behind?

In this raw and radiant episode of The Selfish Now Podcast, identity liberation coach Dr. Onaysia Martinez gets real about what it means to pause on purpose. She unpacks the toxic cycles of high-functioning anxiety, survival mode, and people-pleasing that so high-functioning women are silently trapped in—then walks you through what it really looks like to reclaim your time, energy, and joy.

Dr. Onaysia shares her story of walking away from a high-stress career and entering a new season of soft power, nervous system healing, and radical self-trust. It's the permission slip you didn’t know you needed—but your soul's been begging for.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:
• The truth about why rest feels unsafe for high-achieving women
• How hustle culture disconnects us from our joy and self-worth
• Signs your nervous system is in survival mode—and how to reset it
• A powerful reframe to help you stop proving, and start being

If you’ve ever thought:
🔎 “Why do I feel guilty for resting?”
🔎 “How do I break free from burnout?"
🔎 “What if I don’t want to hustle like this forever?”

Then girl—this episode is your sacred wake-up call.

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction: Embrace Your True Self

00:22 Welcome to the Selfish Small Podcast

01:02 Personal Update: Virginia Experience

02:54 The Power of Being Present

05:34 Getting in Tune with Yourself

07:15 Breaking Free from Societal Expectations

11:50 Rewiring Your Nervous System

13:16 Celebrate Your Wins

14:52 Program Updates

16:54 Conclusion: Your Time is Now

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