Shelly and Cam continue exploring the significance and process of creating value and dig into creating value around purpose and identity this week. They refine their Sense, Access, Value model through deeper discussion, new client examples and sharing practices for listeners. Value lives between attention and motivation, and ADHD disrupts the valuation process by limiting accessibility and awareness (Barriers I and II from episodes 94 and 104). Getting clear on what you need or what really matters is key to determining agency and is also highly dependent on timing. We need this information to be accessible at the times we need it most. Unfortunately with ADHD, when swept up in a dramatic moment the things that are valuable to us like identities, practices and purpose can fade into the background.
Shelly shares a story about how a client thought they needed to be more like a gregarious but abrupt co-worker. In exploring this, Shelly and her client soon realized that the client was creating false value around the attributes of this “Politician” individual. Further exploration revealed a desire for more connectedness to the client’s own sense of self - a desire to collaborate. Shelly shares how at first she didn’t see herself in the picture when considering a really important relationship decision, but when she circled back to consider what truly matters she got crystal clear on her next steps. Cam and Shelly discuss the importance of a positive feedback loop and that with incomplete information we can create a false picture of success. Finally, they share how listeners can use Pause, Disrupt, Pivot in the larger Sense, Access, Value framework.
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For more of the Translating ADHD podcast:
Being Misunderstood with ADHD: In Relationships
Being Misunderstood with ADHD: Childhood Origins
ADHD and the Understand, Own, Translate Model
Short Circuiting the ADHD Meaning Maker
Locating ADHD Behind the Limiting Story
ADHD and Emotional Autopilot
The In-between Place: Untethered with ADHD
ADHD PoC Voices: Influencer Rach Idowu Shares Her Own ADHD Story of Struggle, Resilience and Advocacy
ADHD and Experimenting with Detaching From Outcome
Getting Distance from the Adrenaline Response Cycle: Big Signals and Journey Thinking
ADHD and Getting Distance from the Adrenaline Response Cycle
In the Shadow of Impending Urgency: Procrastination and the Adrenaline Response Cycle
ADHD and Boundaries: Revisiting The Adrenaline Response Cycle
ADHD and Relationships: Boundaries and the Performative Judge
ADHD and Relationships: Identifying Our Inner Saboteurs
ADHD and Relationships: Identifying the Dysfunction past the Drama
ADHD and Relationships: Emotional Regulation and the Big Signal of Drama
ADHD and Purpose: Getting Insight into Your Who and Why
Self-Actualization ADHD Needs: Creative Expression
Esteem ADHD Needs: Self Compassion
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