#139 Why You Never Get What You Want (And Why It Falls Apart When You Do)

2025-11-26

What if joy could last … without worrying that it’ll end? You've done the work. You've built the business, shown up for the relationships, pushed yourself to grow. But there's this feeling you can't shake. Like something bad is waiting on the other side of success. Like the moment you finally relax, it's all going to fall apart. Genea calls this the upside-down pattern. It's when your nervous system learned early on that stepping into what you want comes with consequences (and not the goo...

What if joy could last … without worrying that it’ll end?

You've done the work. You've built the business, shown up for the relationships, pushed yourself to grow.

But there's this feeling you can't shake.

Like something bad is waiting on the other side of success.

Like the moment you finally relax, it's all going to fall apart.

Genea calls this the upside-down pattern.

It's when your nervous system learned early on that stepping into what you want comes with consequences (and not the good kind).

So now, even though you're working toward your goals, your subconscious is working just as hard to make sure you never actually get there. Or if you do, you lose it.

This episode unpacks:

🔹 The two-year-old moment that wired Genea's brain to expect punishment after joy

🔹 Why you might be using shame to complete the loop your body expects

🔹 The leadership training that forced her to choose her real desires over safety

🔹 What it actually takes to stop fearing the things that light you up

This isn't about working harder or wanting it more.

It's about unwinding the hidden fear that's been running the show since you were too young to understand what was happening.

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