Breaking Free: How to Heal Attachment Wounds and Build Secure Relationships with Jack Bohanan

In this heartfelt episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Avik sits down with relationship coach Jack Bohanan to explore the deep emotional roots of attachment patterns and how we can begin to heal. Jack shares how losing a 20-year relationship became a wake-up call that led him to transform his own avoidant tendencies. Together, they unpack how childhood experiences shape adult connection styles, why intellectual awareness alone doesn’t break patterns, and how somatic safety is the true gateway to secure relationships. Listeners will learn what healthy attachment feels like—calm, simple, safe—and how to rewire from survival to connection.

 

About the Guest:
Jack Bohanan is a certified relationship coach and somatica practitioner known for helping people rewire unhealthy relational dynamics. After navigating the loss of a long-term relationship due to insecure attachment, Jack dove deep into healing—both personally and professionally. He now uses somatic roleplay, embodiment work, and his signature Ideal Partner Figure (IPF) method to guide clients, including therapists, into healthier connections. Jack’s mission is simple: help people experience what real love feels like in their nervous system, not just in their head.

 

Key Takeaways:

• Awareness is only the beginning; somatic safety is what actually shifts attachment wounds.

• Secure attachment feels peaceful, not intense—comfort in connection and in solitude.

• Many of us confuse familiarity with love, even when it’s toxic.

• You don’t need to “fix” yourself—being kinder to your nervous system is a powerful first step.

• Healing happens in real-time experiences, not just in therapy sessions or journaling.

Connect with Jack Bohanan:
Website: https://polarityunscripted.com/ 
Coaching Inquiry: Visit his site to apply for 1:1 support or workshops.

 

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