90: From inner CRITIC 😈 to Bestie: how to create REAL emotional Safety

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Think it’s the world… your partner… the people you date… making you feel unsafe in love? 🖤

What if I told you most of that emotional unsafety actually starts with your own thoughts the ones you barely notice, the inner critic running nonstop in your head?

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure Podcast, I show you how anxious attachment and your inner critic create the emotional chaos in your relationships and how you can finally take back control.

We dive into:
★ How anxious attachment triggers the inner critic and makes you question your worth
★ Why your inner voice gets so loud when you feel judged, unseen, or rejected
★ The roots of self-criticism   from parenting, culture, media, and social comparison
★ Step-by-step ways to soften your inner critic and reparent yourself
★ How to build emotional safety with yourself first, so you can connect from a place of calm in your relationships

If you’ve ever Googled:

“how to feel emotionally safe in my relationship”,

“how to quiet my inner critic”,

“how to stop overthinking in love”, or

“how to be less anxious in a relationship”, this episode is for you.

 

You’ll learn practical ways to notice your inner critic, get curious about what it’s trying to protect you from, respond with compassion, and use actions...not just words—to show yourself safety.

This is about retraining your nervous system, reducing anxiety, and creating secure, loving connections with yourself and others. ✨

Whether you’re navigating dating, marriage, or friendships, understanding and soothing your inner critic is key to creating emotional safety in relationships and finally feeling truly seen, valued, and loved.

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Inner Critic
01:56 My personal Inner Story
04:35 Connect your Inner critic back to your Roots
06:44 Realise your Inner Critics Protective Drive
07:22 What the Anxious Attachments Inner Critic Notices
09:06 Visualisation to become your own Inner Parent
11:13 3 Steps to Reparent Your Inner Critic
21:01 Before + After: From HATE to LOVE
23:44 Quick Recap

 

 

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.