Feeling Like “It’s Not Fair” After Betrayal? Let Go of Blame, Choose Peace & Reclaim Your Power–A coaching session with Jane
“You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but you can’t have both.”
— Lora Cheadle
When betrayal detonates your life, “It’s not fair” becomes the drumbeat in your head. In this intimate coaching session with “Jane,” we walk the real path from righteous anger and blame to sovereignty: naming what’s actually happening (mental/physical exhaustion), discerning what ...
Feeling Like “It’s Not Fair” After Betrayal? Let Go of Blame, Choose Peace & Reclaim Your Power
–A coaching session with Jane
“You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but you can’t have both.”
— Lora Cheadle
When betrayal detonates your life, “It’s not fair” becomes the drumbeat in your head. In this intimate coaching session with “Jane,” we walk the real path from righteous anger and blame to sovereignty: naming what’s actually happening (mental/physical exhaustion), discerning what you can control (boundaries, micro-choices), and choosing peace over the power of the grudge. If you’ve been holding the story together for your kids, your home, and everyone else—while seething at the unequal load—this conversation will meet you exactly where you are and offer a way through.
Top 3 Takeaways
- Grudge vs. Freedom: You can have a grudge or you can have freedom—but not both. The shift begins by noticing when you’re in blame and choosing peace on purpose.
- Name the Real Problem: Trade the story (“This is all his fault”) for the truth in your body (“This is mentally and physically exhausting”). Naming what is puts your power where your feet are.
- Micro-Choices Restore Agency: One firm “no” a week and one nourishing “yes” a week for six weeks changes your nervous system, your schedule, and your sense of self.
Episode Highlights
- Why anger is sometimes a functional fuel—and how to thank it without letting it drive.
- The fairness myth: differentiating external unfairness from creating internal justice.
- “Give him the victim seat.” If someone must occupy it, let it be him—so you can choose the seat of peace.
- Language swap that changes everything: from “I have to” → “I am choosing to.”
- A simple boundary: “Please stop texting me.” Why this one sentence matters for your nervous system and your future.
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About Lora:
Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a betrayal recovery coach, attorney, TEDx speaker, and author of FLAUNT! and It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal.
After uncovering her husband’s 15-year affair, she turned her own pain into purpose—helping high-achieving women reclaim their identity, power, and joy.
A trauma-aware coach, somatic therapist, and former attorney, Lora blends legal insight with emotional and spiritual healing for full-spectrum recovery.
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