Should I Call a Man’s Partner His Husband if They’re Legally Married?

Questions about whether we should call a man’s partner his husband if they’re legally married and whether it’s appropriate to remove kids from a middle school youth group where a male high schooler who has socially transitioned to female is serving.

• What are your thoughts on calling a man’s partner his husband or a woman’s partner her wife if they have had a same-sex wedding?
• A male high schooler who has socially transitioned to female is serving in our church’s middle school ministry. If I pull my kids from their youth group, am I punishing them for someone else’s error?