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In this episode, I’m with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor and hoarding expert extraordinaire. We unpack the concept of engaging with our belongings - actually seeing, touching, and using the things we tend to accumulate, rather than letting th...
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In this episode, I’m with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor and hoarding expert extraordinaire. We unpack the concept of engaging with our belongings - actually seeing, touching, and using the things we tend to accumulate, rather than letting them fade into the background. Jan shares insights from her work, explains why we often feel safer just owning stuff instead of interacting with it, and offers practical ways to build a healthier, more intentional relationship with what we own. There are some genuinely enlightening moments, and plenty of ideas for anyone looking to break free from an excess of stuff.
- Defining "Engaging with Our Stuff"
- What it means to actually engage with possessions (seeing, touching, using)
- Comparison to possessions fading into the background
- The idea of using versus just possessing objects
- Patterns of Engagement Among People Who Hoard
- Sense of safety from being surrounded by possessions without interaction
- Only the "top layer" of possessions typically being used
- Loss of intention behind keeping sentimental or useful items
- The psychological comfort of having versus using objects
- Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Compulsive Hoarding
- Emotional connection to the potential of objects rather than actual objects
- Avoidance of decision-making by not engaging/touching items
- Security and reassurance derived from the mere presence of items
- Defeatism and pointlessness associated with searching for or using objects
- Barriers to Engaging with Possessions
- Overwhelm from the sheer volume of stuff
- Active resistance and avoidance behaviours
- Feelings of incompetence and adaptation through purchasing duplicates
- Guilt associated with over-accumulation
- Benefits of Actively Engaging with Possessions
- Rediscovering useful or wanted items when sorting
- Increased awareness of what is owned and where it is
- Neurological and psychological benefits of tactile interaction
- Insights gained from using and trying on items (e.g., clothing)
- Decision-making as a muscle that strengthens with practice
- Realisations about unnecessary duplicates (e.g., multiple ladles in the kitchen)
- Emotional and practical hurdles in finding homes for items
- Perfectionism and rigidity around item placement and organisation
- Moving, Arranging, and Re-organising Possessions
- Resistance to moving items from "their place" due to tradition, attachment, or perfectionism
- Fear of forgetting where things are if organisational changes are made
- Multi-step decision fatigue when organising
- The importance of flexible, evolving systems for item placement
- Confronting Avoidance and Overwhelm
- The value of small steps, e.g., simply looking into an avoided bag or space
- The myth of a “good reason” for keeping certain items, often dispelled when items are revisited
- Developing Healthier, More Intentional Relationships with Stuff
- Introducing intention and ritual to everyday interactions with possessions
- “Rotation stations” and seasonal evaluation/rituals
- Benefits of conscious handling, organisation, and maintenance
- Cultural Perspectives and Practices
- Japanese concepts:
- Te Ate: hand-care, tactile connection as a ritual
- Mushiboshi: seasonal airing and assessment of items
- Ma: meaningful emptiness/space as a source of tranquillity
- Contrasts between Western consumerism and other cultural approaches to possessions
- Challenges and Solutions in Organising and Letting Go
- The impact of spatial processing or organisational difficulties
- Accepting that resistance to change is sometimes due to overwhelm
- Personalisation and Flexibility in Managing Possessions
- Tailoring organisation and engagement to one’s own needs, routines, and neurodiversity
- Maximalism and the need for varying levels of stimulus—distinguishing between maximalism and chaos
- Allowing spaces to be intentionally clear, embracing the benefits of emptiness
- The ongoing journey of developing intentionality with possessions
- The importance of kindness and patience with oneself in making these changes
Links
- Podcast ep 146: Where Dragons Live and what we leave behind
- Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live
- How to watch Where Dragons Live
- Podcast ep 53: The Endowment Effect and hoarding – How this cognitive bias makes you feel the need to keep everything
- Podcast ep 124: How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding
- Podcast ep 74: Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
- Podcast ep 140: How to cope with – or help – a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist
- Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt
- Elis James and John Robins podcast
- Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form
- Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology
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