My Ex is Mad I Didn’t Visit Him in the Hospital...Ask the Hingham Housewife!

The Hingham Housewife, Author Alexandra Slater, joined the morning team once again to help our listener friends with their problems.

This week, we had a woman whose ex-husband made her feel guilty for not visiting him in the hospital when he was sick. They'd been divorced 5 years and never had children. 

Dear Housewife,

 

My ex is upset that I didn’t visit him in the hospital, but I’m remarried and don’t think this would be appropriate in regards to my current husband. Am I in the wrong? Or how can I explain to him nicely that I don't think this is appropriate.

Sincerely,

Not Your Nurse or Wife

The Hingham Housewife agreed that it would be inappropriate for her to visit her ex in the hospital (unless he was in a coma or near death). The HH also suggested having an earnest conversation with her ex to explain that she didn't think it was fair to her current husband to maintain a close relationship with him. Furthermore, by visiting him in the hospital, it would send the wrong message and hurt her husband.

Beth agreed and said it would not be appropriate to visit her ex. After all, it's been five years now, and he should understand that she has responsibilities to her current marriage. 

Rob also felt that, unless the circumstances were dire, this listener should stay home. No hospital visits needed!

We also had a listener text in his opinion:

Peter from Hingham: 

She should NOT visit her ex in the hospital. He should move on.

The Housewife had a final thought: perhaps the listener is giving mixed signals to her ex-husband. Maybe she's doing something to lead him to believe they are closer than they are? Or, that they have another chance at love? She should talk to her ex and explain that, while he was a great part of her past, he is not a part of her future. Her loyalty lies with her current husband, and she has to respect him.