366 - Nature Vs. Nurture

Emunah means belief, specifically, when I don't understand, I don't see, I nevertheless believe. Emunah is a personal relationship with Hashem that is just between me and Hashem. No one else can truly know the real level of another individual's emunah. In fact, you could have two people that, from our perspective, if we were to be painting the scorecard, we would give both of them the same score, because they both seem to be succeeding in the same areas in the same way. However, it is so important for us to remember that we do not see anything in this world in its true manner. Let us remember what the Torah commentaries teach us, that this world is called Alma d’Shikra, the world of falsehood. So many things in this world are upside down from its true expression of what they actually are, which we will only see and understand in the next world.

Let us use an example to illustrate this concept. Take two individuals who experience a challenging situation, such as having an acquaintance steal a large amount of money from them. Now, we have learned many times that a perspective of emunah and bitachon would teach us that we are not to get angry. Of course, we would be permitted, and perhaps even obligated, to act in a practical way to try to recover our money. But nevertheless, we are completely forbidden from getting angry, because as the Gemara teaches, getting angry is a form of idle worship, because when I get angry, in a sense I am saying Hashem does not exist, God forbid, and therefore I have a license to get angry at this individual who brought this suffering upon me. Somebody who is living with an emunah and bitachon perspective, and always has Hashem in the picture, understands that every individual is ultimately a puppet of Hashem, and therefore just like it would be insane if somebody hits me with a broomstick, to start punching and shouting at the broomstick, because we all understand there is something behind the broomstick, the individual who is hitting me; in the same way if I am living a life of emunah and bitachon, it would be absolutely insane to get angry at that individual.

So let us take two individuals that respond successfully, in our eyes, to this situation. Both individual A and individual B, in their separate circumstances, who had an experience of somebody stealing a large amount of money from them, respond with calm without getting angry. In our books, both of these individuals have been successful in their emunah endeavor. It could, however, very well be that individual A has been created by Hashem with a natural tendency of being calm to all situations. Even without belief in Hashem, this individual might be calm through any and every situation, and not necessarily is their expression of remaining calm and not getting angry an expression that results from their emunah endeavor. And in the same way, it could very well be that individual B has a super strong tendency to get angry with every small disturbance. And that is the way Hashem created them. And nevertheless, in this situation, they somehow managed to respond with complete calm, not getting angry. And the way they got here is because of their tremendous work in their emunah and bitachon. Although initially, feeling inside themselves an almost natural reaction and response to get super angry at this individual, because that is their nature, however, through their growth and success in emunah and bitachon, they managed to respond in a completely calm way without getting angry.

Both individual A and individual B have responded in a calm way without getting angry. However, in Hashem's books, these two individuals will have completely different looking scorecards. Let us remember, emunah and everything that is under the emunah and bitachon umbrella is not about anything we see nor what we understand. Emunah is about what we believe.