Is the fastest way to get over someone really to get under someone else? Can a relationship ever be successful if one or both of the people in it feel like one of them is settling for the other? And when will “bonker balls” be added to the DSM?
To answer some of these questions, Aurora Brown is joined by healthy choices, Clinical Psychologist Nazneen Firfirey and Biodiversity and Conservation Biologist – and musical theatre extraordinaire – Lyle Wilson. Together they break down the music and mental health themes in Crazy...
Is the fastest way to get over someone really to get under someone else?
Can a relationship ever be successful if one or both of the people in it feel like one of them is settling for the other?
And when will “bonker balls” be added to the DSM?
To answer some of these questions, Aurora Brown is joined by healthy choices, Clinical Psychologist Nazneen Firfirey and Biodiversity and Conservation Biologist – and musical theatre extraordinaire – Lyle Wilson. Together they break down the music and mental health themes in Crazy Ex-Girlfriend Season 1 Episode 4, titled “I’m Going on a Date with Josh’s Friend!”
That’s right, we’re discussing PAP smears with Mom, sex with a stranger, ideal partner preferences, and fear of intimacy.
Let's get weird.
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⏳ Chapter Timestamps
00:00:00 Short introduction to the representation of mental health in Crazy Ex-Girlfriend S01E04
00:01:12 Land acknowledgement
00:01:40 Title credits: I'm Not Ready for a Health Relationship!
00:02:20 Guest introductions and their orientation to Crazy Ex-Girlfriend (CXG)
00:06:09 Recapping the plot of CXG S01E04 "I'm Going on a Date with Josh's Friend!"
00:08:30 "The [kosher] salt in the wound." Rebecca's Mommie Dearest
00:12:45 "Come back to my place and please don't be a murderer." Sex with a Stranger & a date with a friend
00:31:04 "If he's your broken condom, I'm Plan B." Settle for Me
00:45:01 OMG we're heading for middle age: We all love Greg Serrano
00:51:12 To diagnose or befriend [Rebecca]?
01:04:45 "I'M SO CHILL!!!" Josh's application to Aloha Tech
01:11:16 Rating CXG S01E04 on the Fanon Test
01:23:23 "I can hear your face." Exit stage right
01:29:27 End credits
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