Beyond Conventional Obligations - 08.25.11

Student Question:  I am finding that I have an inner conflict when writing emails.  For example, my friend just got married and I wrote "I hope you had a nice wedding" or a friend of mine’s father is sick and I write "I hope he gets better," or "I hope you enjoy these photos," or whatever; it is it feels like I am giving them a command.  What if they were not supposed to have a nice wedding?  What if his father is not supposed to get better?  I feel this conflict very strongly and I don’t know what to write or how to approach this?