Where to Find Love

The search for romance is vexing. For everyone I think.

I sometimes think that societies that arrange marriages may be onto something.

I have a friend who struggles with this.

He refuses to believe that anyone else has ever had trouble meeting people.

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But when I was his age, despite being superhot, I couldn’t figure out how to get a guy to ask me out on a date.

My mom suggested going to places where smart men hang out. Like museums. 

That didn’t work.

My sister suggested if I liked a guy, I should ask him out to something neutral – during the day – so he would know I was interested.

That didn’t work so well either.

What worked?

Being open to the possibilities and not having any expectations.

When I stopped putting pressure on myself to find someone to date and “be in love” with, I stopped putting pressure on the men I was meeting to fulfill that role.

This meant, I could actually get to know them and find out if we were compatible. 

That worked.