22. Three Keys For Redefining Relationships Without Trying to Change People

In today's episode, we are making peace with the reality that we cannot change people, and in fact, it's empowering to realize that we are powerless to change people. With the best of intentions, we try to fix or change people, but the consequences are usually negative for both parties. Let's be honest. It rarely works in the long run. One person feels disrespected, irritated, and controlled, and the other person has wasted time and effort trying to do the impossible: change someone besides herself. 

Yes, we know that we can't change people, but that doesn't stop us from trying. Sometimes we work intentionally and make it our mission; the person may be a close friend or family member who lacks motivation to work on themselves. Other times we work on changing someone completely unaware of what we are doing. 

There are valid reasons why we may want to change a co-worker, spouse, relative, or friend, but regardless of intent or need, the odds are not in your favor. 

For many years, I struggled with a belief that other people's behavior was my responsibility. I believe partly because I was raised to think so. Also, I lived as an extreme people-pleaser for many years. I know first-hand how taking charge of changing others creates anxiety, breeds conflict, and pulls us from living our own lives with focus, peace, and purpose. So, let's talk about this candidly and commit to practicing these three keys.

Three keys will help you redefine relationships without any requirement for YOU to change THEM. That's right! And I'm sharing them with you in this episode. 

This isn't rocket science, but it's an empowering reminder of how you can care about others without losing yourself in the process.

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Kerri Goodman, Certified Life Coach, ADHD Coach, Certified Behavior Consultant, Mentor, and Believer in God's purpose for you and your FREEDOM!

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