Episode #105 - Tuesday The Fix: Sabotage of Self Part 2

Sabotage of self is one of the most unnecessary yet common problems of people in recovery. We expect people who are on a destructive path to continue to sabotage their progress. They are already on a path and negative destruction and sabotage seems to be a part of their daily process. But what about those of us who are in recovery? What about those of us who are on a path to wellness and becoming whole. Why do we act as if we are the enemy as we are trying to be part of the solution. Please let me know what you think. Your contribution through your comments carries great value to me. I hope you can remove yourself from the sabotage of self and get on a healthy side of living that is consistent with the desire you have for your life.

Sabotage - an act or process tending to hamper or hurt
b: deliberate subversion

Subversion - to pervert or corrupt by an undermining of morals, allegiance, or faith

1.      Consider your past and present.

• Present circumstances are usually based on past behavior that we don’t break free from.
• Maybe you let yourself be drained emotionally or physically.
• Ignoring your own needs to be freed from the bondage of negative behavior.
• This way of living might have become the norm for you.
• Think about the people you surround yourself with.
• Are the relationships reciprocal?
• Is there a healthy give and take?

Beyond relationships, your environment might be unhealthy, too. We must make sure that we not only change old playmates we need to change old playgrounds,

2.  Make self-care a priority.

• Use our past results to determine if doing the same thing in the present makes sense.
• Giving yourself permission to put yourself first.
• Ask yourself, “Do I really want to end up back in treatment?
• What if someone else or I am harmed?”
• When we do this, our need and motivation to set boundaries become stronger.
• Self-care also means recognizing the importance of your feelings and honoring them.

These feelings serve as important clues about our wellbeing and about what makes us happy and unhappy.

I hope this has helped you see yourself differently. We can be our own best resource or our own worst enemy. The choice has been our choice. Walk in Wisdom and choose wisely.