The citizens of the Kingdom should have the character of the King. And when our lives get lived in relationship to others and circumstances there should be a demonstration of the transformation that the Spirit has made real in us.
Our character is best experienced when we interact with others and with the situations that life will deliver to us.
The Father is longing to have a people in the earth that are the product of the Spirit's power to produce them into the image of the Son, Jesus.
God wants you to look like His Son. He is conforming you to His image. The version of you that God is looking for is a version that has been radically reconfigured, from the inside out, to be more like Jesus. He's not interested the best version of you that you can make, He longs for you to be more like His Son.