44: 10 ways to DECENTER men in relationships in 2025 (to Stop Chasing Male Validation and Choose YOU)

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🎙️ 10 Ways to Start Decentering Men in 2025

(To Stop Chasing Male Validation + Choose YOU) | Anxious to Secure Podcast

✨ Tired of obsessing over HIS texts, HIS moods, HIS validation?
✨ Ready to stop letting your anxious attachment call the shots?
✨ Want to feel like the main character in YOUR life again?

Let’s go 💃✨

In this episode of Anxious to Secure, I’m sharing 10 REAL, doable ways to start decentering men in 2025 — especially if you’re anxiously attached and lose yourself in love 🖤

This isn’t about hating men 🚫 — it’s about healing the part of you that makes someone else the CENTER of your world... while you disappear in the background 😢

➡️ You'll learn:

• What “decentering” actually means (and what it doesn’t)

• Why anxious brains cling harder in relationships

• Subtle signs you’re making HIM the center of your worth

• Micro-habits to start choosing YOU every day (without guilt)

• My favorite mirror reframes to stop spiraling + start rewiring ✨

 

🔒When you make someone else your emotional oxygen...
You reinforce the belief that you’re only worthy if they stay.
No thanks. Let’s unlearn that together 💪🏽

Whether you're in a relationship, dating, or healing from a breakup — this episode will help you gently + boldly reclaim your energy, identity, and power 🧠✨

 

🧠 Especially powerful if:

• You overthink after every text 📱

• You feel anxious when they pull away

• You’re afraid to be alone or single

• You feel like you keep losing yourself in love

👀 Stay until the end for Step 10 — mirror reframes to literally rewire your brain and re-center YOU in your nervous system 🪞✨

🎧 Press play if you’re ready to STOP chasing and START choosing 🖤
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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

 

 

 

 

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Importance of Decentering Men
01:35 Decentering ANYONE (not just MEN)
02:02 ✶ 01: What is "DeCentering" and What It's Not
02:51 ✶ 02: Why This Work is So Needed
04:08 ✶ 03: Why This Hits Anxious Attachments HARD
05:10 ✶ 04: Signs You've Centered Your Partner TOO Much
06:58 ✨ 10 Ways to DECENTER Men in Romantic Relationships
07:03 01 Main Character Energy
09:03 02 PAIN REWIRING Journal Prompt
10:44 03 Build Self-Trust
12:49 How to stop obsessing over TEXT: Mini Course
14:07 04 Be Obsessed With Yourself
15:10 05 Be Obsessed With Your Life
16:51 06 Show Up For Yourself Consistently
17:43 07 Give Yourself What You Crave From Him
19:21 08 Become Independently Badass in ALL Areas
21:55 09 Rewire With Possibility
25:01 10 Choose a Mantra That Reclaims YOU
25:58 Do THIS for 1 week... to CENTER YOURSELF
26:58 QUICK RECAP

 

 

 

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

 

Love, Jula

Your Anxious to Secure Coach