Mastering Boundaries: A Guide for Cis-Women

In this conversation, Dr. Erika Miley and author Terri Cole delve into the complexities of boundaries, particularly for women who are dealing with being high-functioning codependents. They explore the societal conditioning that makes boundary-setting challenging, the myths surrounding boundaries, and the emotional toll of neglecting personal limits. Terri shares practical strategies for establishing boundaries, the importance of self-care for therapists, and the impact of social media on therapeutic relationships. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-discovery and the right to prioritize one's own needs without guilt.

takeaways

• Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships.
• Many women struggle with boundaries due to societal conditioning.
• Setting boundaries is a radical act of self-love.
• Understanding the myths around boundaries can empower individuals.
• Emotional discomfort is a natural part of boundary-setting.
• Practicing boundary-setting requires patience and self-compassion.
• Resentment can indicate a need for boundaries.
• Therapists must model healthy boundaries for their clients.
• Social media can complicate therapist-client relationships.
• Self-care is crucial for therapists to avoid burnout.

00:00 Introduction to Boundaries and Codependency

01:16 The Struggle with Boundaries for Women

03:52 Connection Between Boundaries and Resentment

06:31 Understanding the Myths of Boundaries

08:24 The Importance of Setting Boundaries

11:54 Navigating the Discomfort of Boundary Setting

13:59 Childhood Trauma and Boundary Issues

17:23 Building Healthy Relationships Through Boundaries

21:20 Establishing Boundaries in Relationships

23:09 Handling Repeat Offenders

24:54 The Importance of Communication

26:57 Understanding Emotional Responses

28:52 Navigating Power Dynamics in Boundaries

30:52 Assessing Risks in Boundary Setting

32:40 Creating a VIP Section for Emotional Safety

34:29 Therapist Boundaries and Self-Care

36:31 Modeling Healthy Boundaries in Therapy

39:57 Financial Boundaries in Therapy

41:29 Social Media and Professional Boundaries

41:56 Navigating Professional Boundaries in Therapy

44:41 The Impact of Social Media on Therapists

47:09 Becoming an Expert: The Journey of a Therapist

49:38 Maintaining Curiosity and Preventing Burnout

54:46 Understanding Client Boundaries and Self-Care

59:55 The Concept of High Functioning Codependency

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